Being Single Throughout Life . Is anyone can give any advise or any piece of comment. Please.

Hi Everyone on this forum
I am socially awkward and do not have much knowledge about how society functions and society norms. I am a non conformist. I am from the East (Asia). When I am young I thought that only some people have boyfriend or girlfriend. But When I grow older, I realised that I was wrong and almost all people have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
I am single throughout my whole life. I never proposed to any girl and also no girl proposed me. Am I being abnormal. Does being single throughout life is abnormal. Is there any people in the world who never had any boyfriend or girlfriend ? I request everyone to give a piece of comment or give any advise or any information. Please I need to know regarding this.

With kind regards
Chingu

Hello Chingu

I think our hearts desire to be loved and to love. People can find that love in other people ( romantically or platonically). Love and passion can be obtained through hobbies, animals, plants, charity, or religion.

If it is romantic love that one is seeking, socializing at venues that cater to singles would be a great starting place.

Don’t rush. Don’t settle. Build a friendship and mutual respect and trust.

There are people who choose to never have a romantic relationship because of trauma or religious beliefs.

So it is not abnormal to be absent of that. But if you find yourself feeling like there is a void, then explore.

Be careful with your heart and finances. Relationships can be both wonderful and heartbreaking.

I would encourage you to befriend couples and married people to understand the dynamics of relationships through their experiences and knowledge.

Have standards and expectations. A good mate would rise to meet your standards instead of you having to lower them to be with that person. It is complicated and easier said than done.

I hope that my brief input has helped some. This community is very supportive, nonjudgmental and we are here for you every step of your journey.

I wish you the best at determining what is best for you.

There is nothing wrong with being single. You'd be surprised at how many people are. I have 4 siblings and they are all single. I'm actually planning to be single my whole life because I see no point in being in a relationship. I want to focus on my hobbies, passions and helping my family. You can live a happy fulfilling life without being in a relationship. I don't know why society pressures people to be in relationships, there is much more to life than being in romantic relationships. I recommend finding something your passionate about whether that be a hobby, job, anything you like and focusing on that. Don't worry, okay

I agree that there is nothing wrong with being single. I am staying single also.

Hi Chingu - I have heard about something called asexual which means that physical sex is uninteresting. There are people who are a-romantic, too. This means no interest in dating or romantic relationships. The two can occur together or separately. I didn’t see whether you are uncomfortable with being single. I do see that you were asking if being single was a problem for mental health or if it is rare.

I can say it’s not rare, as in enough people are long term single and it’s not necessarily a problem.

I can also say that I think it depends on how you feel about being single. Some, probably most, of us are wired for romantic relationships. As for myself, I have been single for 9 years, and it has recently become more uncomfortable. I really want someone to grow with and have an intimate connection with, both physically and emotionally.

That’s just me, and if you’re open to advice I would suggest that it’s fine to have many attributes that are not particularly common among the entire population. There’s a mathematical reasoning behind that… but I would not assume that statistical arguments are something of interest (although they are for me!). I hope that helps.

Yes, there are lots of people who have either voluntarily or involuntarily been single throughout their lives. There are also people who have only been in relationships for short periods of time.

If you really want to be a in a relationship, maybe that would be possible for you. If you don't want that, I think there might be a way you could live a fulfilling life that way, though it may seem strange to your family members or society in general.