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I hate how my dad who never regularized talking to us every now and then or the very least once or twice a week since I was child and now that I’m almost 33, he now has the audacity to sulk or be upset that I am not available to have a conversation with.

The nerve.
If you want a talking relationship, then you had 19 years to do that, and you lost that chance for over 14 years now.
Do it while your kids are young, not when they’re already too far in to being an adult, and the “no talking relationship” is already too solidified.

When he was so disappointed at me, and he didn’t wanna talk to me for more than 5 years, did he hear any demands on my part? no… had it not been the lockdown, he would not even talk to me.

When they’re busy at work and they cant even respond to my messages, did they ever hear me sulk or be upset? NO!
so where does he even get the nerve or any right to be upset.

I was able to sign up for the site that I wanted to sign up for, but now it's having a lot of server problems.

I left some money as a gift to someone who was my friend for 50 years. I knew she doesn't want to talk anymore when I mentioned this lump and cancer. She said ''Cancer affects everyone, I hope your family rallies behind you and supports you.'' I texted once more, no reply. So I finally had to drive to her city, for something else, and stopped and put a note with money for her grandbaby at her back porch. I always liked her daughter, she did a lot of work to become a naturopathic, if that's the right term, doctor.

My friend complained a couple of times that she was ''tied'' into her daughters financial things. This was after asking if she could co sign an apartment lease for me. I was fine with hearing no I cant. But when she mentioned she didn't like how I helped my older son out with money, it hit a nerve. I sent a voicemail saying I'd never tell her what to do with money she earned or didn't earn. It's true, why would I? I also asked if her daughter was planning on having a baby, she said no.

Well I do know people, and this daughter waited on her first love to get married for a long time. In my eyes, I could see she'd want to have a baby. Well she did, and I was saying I'd send her a gift. One day this daugter said ''thank you for the crib bed sheets'' I said it wasn't me but I didn't forget. So did my friend go ahead and get something with my name on it? I think she did, she assumed I'd forget it. Well it's done, I'm sure she could find the money for her, and no reply back of a thank you. No call. I even wrote I love you to her on the note. I realize friendships only last for a season sometime, but this was my friend since kindergarten. We shared a lot of memories. And boy, this got long sorry.

We lost power earlier this morning and now we don’t have TV.

My tuition is several thousand dollars more this semester; probably because I'm taking one more class than usual. But my loan isn't covering the full amount.

More problems around moving back here. I have a lot of forms, fees, etc.. I hate forms, especially those with assinine nonsensical deadlines. None of this gets me anything I will enjoy, just stuff I have to do for the bureaucracy of various government agencies.

I still haven’t heard back from my former coworker and my former teacher.

Be worth it in the end, keep going. You'll be done with it before you know it.

I've been feeling pretty rough for a couple of weeks. Was usually having at least one flare-up a day, sometimes 2. Then yesterday it escalated. I don't want to get graphic about it, but suffice to say it's pretty grisly.

I feel so awful. I think something is seriously wrong with me. I'm genuinely worried. I'm shuffling around like an old lady. I know i need to eat, but i'm afraid to. It's messing with my sleep. I'm in so much pain and discomfort.

I give too much fucks about people I shouldn't give fucks about

I'm reading between the lines here, so ignore this if I'm in the wrong ballpark.

If you are afraid to eat, it might be because of upset tummy and the resulting bathroom time. (trying to be delicate here), I had that for years, and went to doctors and had tests. No help. I stopped eating ice cream, yogurt and milk and it was like a miracle. No more hurried bathroom trips.

What do you think about getting a full physical, like blood work and all? Sorry tohear that youre not feeling well @Lisa the Goatgirl.

Honestly, yeah, i'm kinda tempted to do either of these. I think we already tried cutting dairy out of my diet before, and that didn't seem to help the situation. But we never tried cutting gluten out of my diet, which i'm tempted to do. Or maybe get tested for coeliac again, cos i seem to remember that the first time, the results came back inconclusive. All i know for sure is i need to do something, because i can't just keep going while always getting worse like this.

A few years back, i tried going to the doctors a bunch, begging them to take me seriously. They told me to lower my stress levels, improve my diet, and exercise more. Well, my stress levels are the lowest they've ever been, i'm eating better, and while i'm not perfect, i'm getting out more than before. And yet, i still keep feeling worse. Something is going wrong, it's not a stress thing.

I hope you are feeling increasingly better today and that whatever has been happening is changing or completely improved.

I do seem to be gradually improving, yeah, thanks. I don't think the root cause is resolved though. This has been a pattern. These episodes have been getting more frequent, longer, and more intense over time. Plus i just feel worse overall day-to-day. It scares me, because i thought eventually it had to plateau, but i just keep slowly worsening. I'm scared of how bad it'll eventually get more than anything.

I'm available to talk/chat anytime you like if you have a need or a desire to do so. I'm sorry to hear that the root reason is worsening and not plateauing.......

My parents are having an alcohol related spat again. It's over, get this, my dad oversleeping and not answering the phone. That's it. A multi-day argument over OVERSLEEPING.

My parents are neglectful towards my health

It sounds like it's already pretty bad.
What do you think, or sense, based on what you of yourself, could help? A person close to me cut out gluten to solve their issues. It's a tedious task but it's helped her health so much it's worth it. You're so insightful Lisa, I hope you can figure it out. Maybe you should get the celiac test again.