Were you bullied?

once we are betrayed it's hard to trust again. we went into a situation with friends 42 years ago and my wife recovered but it still takes a lot for me to trust again. you are still relatively young so you can deal with these trust issues. kids can be very cruel don't let them win.

mike...

I was bullied when I was younger. Some of it was for just being "weird" in general (which I did sometimes on purpose and sometimes not), but some of it was based on gender-nonconforming behavior and perceived sexual orientation. I wasn't out as trans yet, so I was still living as female. I got made fun of for having masculine mannerisms, etc. (e.g. how I sat) The mean girls in middle school used to always ask me "Are you a homo?" I knew I was bisexual from the age of 12, but I was afraid to be open about it due to the homophobia that was rampant in my school and the surrounding area. Thinking back on it, I believe that if I had grown up presenting as male, I would have been made fun of for being too feminine, despite having been bullied for being "too masculine" as a girl.

Yes, several time while in primary school and high school. It stopped in the later years, when my peers and me were about 15 I'd say. By then I didn't care much about having friends, and my care about having close friends diminished considerably by the time I was about 20.

Nowadays, while I don't always feel particularly stressed about relating to people, I don't care as much as other people do, I guess because I'm used to be alone.

I was bullied all the time. I dealt with many issues as a kid and withdrew from my peers. This made me an easy target. Due to my low self esteem I never stood up to anyone. I was even bullied at home by my dad who adopted me when I was little. It was hard to deal with. I’ve healed since then, but I suffered many years bc of it.

Bullies serve no purpose. My reaction to them was more of the old Finnish war cry from centuries back when most soldiers carried swords: hakkaa paalle.

Thank you.

Bullied quite a bit in high school, but mostly ignored.

I was easy to be mean to because I just took it. I often said nothing back and just sat in silence. So, some people took advantage of that. I was also called "fat ass" and ugly by a lot of boys. I think that experience has led me down some paths I might not have taken with men in my adult life... looking for validation. It was hard. It's funny how some of that stuff just stays with you.

you're welcome.

mike...

i understand.

mike...

I wasn't bullied in school growing up. but every job I've held since I was 18 yes. bullied by my bosses, relentlessly. And coworkers. For being "slow" and "something wrong with her". What I've learned was no one has any patience. Especially during training. I just register/learn things differently...buf I CAN gain a mastergul understanding at things, and get yo be good at them. Given time. but my last boss was cruel and made me feel like the dumbest person on earth, for tiny, trivial things. If you're different from the start, its like automatic dismissal by everyone. :/ it wasn't mild bullying either...

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I’m sorry to hear that. I always get bullied at work too. It’s is always over petty things...
Hold your chin up, you’re perfect the way you are.

I still get bullied, even by random strangers on Facebook. I wonder if there's a time I won't get bullied any longer.

The reason I have been bullied throughout my life is mostly because of my appearance. So that probably won't stop unless I get plastic surgery or something.

Yes, being the second to youngest in a family with nine children set me up to be bullied for the rest of my life in school, workplace, relationships and now continues in my toxic family. As an adult, my response is to go no contact as much as possible. If I didn't have my mother to care for, I would go completely no contact, which I will do in future. At least as an adult I can control that. I would rather be poor, homeless and living out in the forest or wilderness than be subjected to the mind games of these bullies, no matter who they are.

I was bullied a lot, starting in maybe 2nd grade and lasted until my sophmoore year in HS. Even now it's still painful. But I don't want to blame what's happening now on what happened then. I forgive them. Some people who've been through far worse and I don't wnat to take away from that.

I think I was bullied because I wasn't assertive. I didn't respond well. Too anxious. I still struggle with anxiety. I pray a lot about things. I can't do it but God can. I'm reminded right now that no matter how hurt you've been in this life, God truly loves you and every good things comes from Him. We're never truly alone because God is everywhere, everytime.

I can relate, Witty. In high school, I was called the elephant man among other things. That was so damaging to me when I was already a mess. I have been told I have dysmorphia, probably due to the bullying.

I was bullied at home while I was growing up. I looked different than my family thought I should look. Parents and siblings would say & do things they shouldn't have. I retreated but didn't know how to defend myself. At school I felt less targeted than at home, strangely enough. I got away from those people eventually but they, the experiences messed me up. I don't have confidence.

People can be such assholes. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.