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Anxiety about going to uni

2stepsback

2stepsback

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may71 said:
It's hard to say without being able to make direct observations.
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Yeah I know. I'm sorry. I haven't been posting with much detail either. I can only drive two days out of the week because those are the days my dad has off from work, however, I have been driving since June. I think I have made good progress but a lot of the basic fundamentals I haven't mastered yet. Also not helping is my brother pestering me about when I'm going to schedule my drive test. Also my learning permit expires in November. I feel like I am under a lot of pressure.
 
Acy

Acy

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@2stepsback — I actually suggested professional lessons to help ease the stress you are feeling AND to help the stress your father seems to be feeling. :) If he is pressuring you, he is likely stressed. And if he is stressed, he might welcome the chance to hand over teaching you to drive to someone else. I realize that maybe it’s expensive and that’s always a consideration for people.

My only other suggestion would be to “focus on the driving, not on the pressure you are feeling.” Focusing on the pressure can be a distraction which doesn’t help when we are trying to learn and use new skills, whether it’s driving or cooking or doing math problems.

Siblings are often good at making life more difficult…If he’s bothering you by asking, “When will you schedule your test?” perhaps give him some brush-off answers... “How is that your business?” “Why do you need to know?” “When I’m ready.”

Yes, you are feeling pressured. Focus on learning and practising the skills. You don’t need to hurry or rush through them. Take the time you need to think. Practising driving is how we learn to make the different “maneuvers” automatic. If staying in your lane at the right speed is hard right now, practise those — with your mind on doing it and on watching the road, and not on “Oh my gosh I need to learn this and I’m tight for time and my brother is being a pest and…and…”

You can do this. Bit by bit you will learn! :)
 
2stepsback

2stepsback

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Acy said:
@2stepsback — I actually suggested professional lessons to help ease the stress you are feeling AND to help the stress your father seems to be feeling. :) If he is pressuring you, he is likely stressed. And if he is stressed, he might welcome the chance to hand over teaching you to drive to someone else. I realize that maybe it’s expensive and that’s always a consideration for people.

My only other suggestion would be to “focus on the driving, not on the pressure you are feeling.” Focusing on the pressure can be a distraction which doesn’t help when we are trying to learn and use new skills, whether it’s driving or cooking or doing math problems.

Siblings are often good at making life more difficult…If he’s bothering you by asking, “When will you schedule your test?” perhaps give him some brush-off answers... “How is that your business?” “Why do you need to know?” “When I’m ready.”

Yes, you are feeling pressured. Focus on learning and practising the skills. You don’t need to hurry or rush through them. Take the time you need to think. Practising driving is how we learn to make the different “maneuvers” automatic. If staying in your lane at the right speed is hard right now, practise those — with your mind on doing it and on watching the road, and not on “Oh my gosh I need to learn this and I’m tight for time and my brother is being a pest and…and…”

You can do this. Bit by bit you will learn! :)
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Thank you so much for your advice. I will learn to keep it in mind the next time I'm out driving. My mom said that we might have to go to an instructor if I wanted to be taught how to drive on the highway but idk what that means... is she worried I'm going to kill my dad on the highway or something?? I don't get it. I'll try and stick with my dad for right now. I don't want the stressors that you mentioned to be lingering in the back of my head for too long but I'm still worried my permit will expire at some point and I still won't have a drive test scheduled by that point so idk :( I hope I don't have to take the written/computer test again just so I can get another permit. I think it varies by state. Wish I learned earlier too but it can't be helped, I'm living in the now, right?
 
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