Ideas & Opinions A horrible question of blood and hormones

Thanks Seabird, i really appreciate you saying that.

You've all helped me a lot, because as much as i wanted to feel like it was reasonable, i couldn't shake this anxiety that it was really ghoulish and disrespectful of me.
Hearing this unanimous stance that it would be fine to use the money that way has really helped me accept that it's ok, that i'm not an awful person for wanting to go that route.

I think that's what i'm going to do with the money.
I'm going to err on the side of giving my grandad credit, and trusting that wherever he is, he has the perspective now to understand, and just want me to finally be at peace.
Thank you all so much for contributing, and for understanding my feelings on this matter.

Ah, that’s a shame. At least that’s not your problem—FUCK, her problem*.

I think the person who left you the money/inheritance would want you to use it as you think is best for you, so yes use it to help you be you.

I struggled at first what to do with mom and dads money. I didn't want to look at it. Didn't want to think of it. But I had only some time to decide. I used it for a car that fits my disabilities. Would they think buying a new car is a good decision, maybe not. But i wanted no issues with a car for a few years.

We really cant know, and if it's a gift, the person giving it to you would want you to use it as you'd like to use it, in my opinion.

I think it depends on the persons relationship with money fundamentally.

Like I have always been working class. I would try to find a way to make that money a growable asset first.

Like if I was getting 50k from somebody inheritance wise I would figure out how to make it 100k first.

I think it comes down to what kind of world this person wants to life in, what view they want to take.

I want to live in world where we dont need to hide ourselves, where we dont have to have these conversations. They become apart of history.

I am fully aware people in the world are trying to keep these conversations current, like Trump.

So to answer the question, i feel as its money, its business where emotions have no place. Unless the person said not to spend it on x or y, its your money.

Its like that horrible debate that crops up in awful tv shows on channel 4 like benefit street. Saying people on benefits shouldnt spend money on certain things based on other peoples prejudice.

Madness.

I think if they bequeathed you with money, they would want you to use it to better your life. If that means transitioning then so be it.

You put into words what i was thinking.

Ultimately that’s what he wanted: your happiness.