Feeling stupid

It’s hard to explain but I know everyone thinks I’m an idiot and I know hate me. I have trouble talking to people and have no self esteem and the littlest thing will be on repeat in my head and the anxiety is so overwhelming to where I literally shake. Something just happened now and I have 11 more hours to go. I went to go help someone and they basically waved me off and said they didn’t want help from me. Literally 10 seconds later someone goes to help and she says nothing to her and takes her help while I’m standing 10 feet away looking like a complete idiot.

I experiance the same thing, if your depressed your usually social confidence evaporates, mine certainly has.

When you're here, you're not alone. Your behaviour was fine it is the person who waved you away who's not fine. I'm sorry aboit the shaking - can you go for a walk or something physically engaging so as to allow your body to drain off that kind of energy? It helps me, which is why I mention it. I hope you feel better soon.

- s

This is one - just one! - of the reasons I so dislike interacting with humans. Things get more hellish yet if you are forced to work with people like that; they will treat you like shit and do everything in their power to push you out. And then for good measure they will turn around and complain about unemployed people.

Feelings aren't facts. Feeling stupid doesn't mean you are stupid. As far as that person you tried to help, there's a lot of possibilities there. Maybe they don't know you very well and weren't sure that you could actually help. It's also possible there was some prejudice involved. Whatever it was, I sense it's more of a problem with them than a problem with you.

I feel this way too but doesn't make it true

I try to tell myself, or tried to before but I’m at a point where I can’t fool myself with possible alternatives anymore. I have worked with them for 4 years and it’s not like it is an outlier. Stuff like this happens at least every day I work. If something doesn’t happen, that is the outlier.

Just ride the wave get some rest and recover we are here for you

I looked like a fucking idiot just now again and I want to go out there my car parked at the corner of the top floor of the parking garage and just jump off. The whole incident will be on repeat in my head the rest of the day even after I clock out. As the day goes on, each repeat will add a little more of if I jumped. I would find some comfort in buying and actually having what I would use instead of jumping.

I'm sorry this is stuck on repeat.


I wish I knew what'd work for you to distract your brain from triggerning the amygdala over and over again. Each time it happens it seems to feel just as bad or worse, at least that's been my experience of trauma and anxieties.

There are techniques to hack this, some of which work for various anxieties and fears which people suffer from. I have used a afew that work for me and allowed me to deal with situations which were previously impossible.

I also struggle with this. I am still obsessed with a past betrayal fnearly 14 months ago. Tonight it has been running on repeat in my head and I am enraged over something that I can’t do anything else about.

During the time since, I have been trying various ways of dealing with my resentment. I am also prone to intrusive thoughts. The resentment is different in that it carries a huge emotional charge, while intrusive thoughts are just a distraction.

The technique that I am experimenting with today is to thank the thought for the input, and then turn my attention to what is happening in the moment. I’m still trying, but it is not working yet. The point is that there are lots of different tools we can use to help us manage intense emotions. Some work for some people, others work for others. It takes a bit of trial and error, but eventually something clicks.

Another day another embarrassment…10 hours to go…

I can’t even answer the phone without looking and sounding like a complete idiot! The rest of my shift, this will repeat in my head over and over and I know people will think I’m stupid and make fun of me.

You will get more self esteem with time I have confidence in you

Have you ever sought out some DBT? It sounds like you could benefit from the way that type of therapy works to reframe how you think about things.

What is that?

I've done a little CBT but idk DBT either

DBT is Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It takes a slightly different spin on thought management than CBT - Cognitive Behavior Therapy.

Wishing you well