Is anyone worried about aging?

I'm not quite middle aged but close enough at this point. Apparently this is what I have to look forward to within the next few years:

Loss of fertility
Weight gain and more difficulty losing weight
Loss of bone density
Gray or thinning hair
Loss of skin elasticity
Uterine or bladder prolapse
Weakening of bladder
Vision loss and/or hearing loss

I don't mean to sound like a downer, but it's getting to me. Does anyone worry about this stuff? I already feel like I have no energy, now it will get worse.

I think the thing that worries me most is problems with conception. I haven't had kids yet but I still want to be a mother. But I worry it'll be too hard to conceive at my age, and people in the past said I'm probably too old to be a mother. So I don't know what to think.

Yeah. And be bedridden is the worse. But I don't worry about the health part, we already have those at such young age already 😂

This is why it always triggers depression. I keep thinking I'll never be married too.

I think I'll get married, just not sure if I'll be able to conceive as I get older, and that concerns me a bit. And I'm sure you will get married because you're awesome.

thanks ^^ if you cant have kids, you'll have your nieces/nephews and you can adopt as well. this is where i realise we "can't" control over what we can't have.

I don't know if I can have kids or not, I mean I've never tried yet. I guess I worry too much about things beyond my control. And I'd adopt if I couldn't conceive, plus I have friends who are like family, so I'll be fine anyway.

Its fine, I understand why you feel that way and its validated for sure. No offense to some, but there are people who are married and has successful family still be miserable and feel alone. I'm happy we have supportive people in our life at least. 🥰

I mean there's lots of ways in life I can feel fulfilled. So even if I'm like a 70 year old woman in a few years, I'll still be happy.

Yayyyy! Happy and single too, cheers!

Hey Witty,
My wife became a mom at almost 36. There were no age related complications. I was 43 then btw. I'm very proud of how our kids are growing up. While I consider my life's failures all the time, and being tormented by the live-in tormenter in my brain, some good things are always possible. I love my grey hair even though my wife complains that long hair the way I grow it makes me look old. There's perception in there too and remember, big business has a stake in people believing they are old when they really are not. Just some thoughts inspired by your question. Hoping it lessens the fears and strengthens the determination to fight, struggle and or whatever else is necessary to make life a winning battle.

I had my child at 30 years old. I was pregnant with a lot of my peers. My 30’s were the best years of my life mostly due to the baby. It was the downfall of my marriage as my husband wanted my attention and I gave it to my daughter.
I am almost 60 now and I still do tai chi and karate and keep active. I do worry about being unable to be active. It’s good that my daughter is a friend and we take care of one another. Life can be good.

I do worry sometimes about these things. I'll be 30 this year and I'm aware that my biological clock is ticking. Though I've kinda resigned myself to the fact that I'll probably never have children anyway.

I'm just trying to focus on being happy and spending time on me as I completely wasted my 20's.

Hell, I am in my late 60's and live this stuff; most every damn day. My advice is to enjoy being young while you can. Build some good memories and save many to pay all the damn doctor bills you will incur when you get old. Golden Years is a bunch of bullshit.

Well, if I'm honest, I worry about it every day. I second what @SillyOldBear says though - enjoy it while you are young. I've never been very worried about age but in my 40's it did start getting to me. Now I wish I was that age again, I had absolutely nothing to worry about. I don't know how old you are Witty but women are having babies later and later and it's much less of a deal than it was - maybe down to better health and better, more advanced health care. Now I'm 57 I worry about my sixties but in all honesty, each year, each decade, is not as bad as you imagine. Weight gain for me is not a huge issue, just a few pounds. Loss of bone density is but I'm getting it treated and it is reversable. Thinning hair but not noticable to anyone else. Skin elasticity - yeah, that I hate! But my point is, it's not a one way street with no turning back, some things get worse, you think it's the end of your youth and the next thing you might find you are low on vitamins or something, get treatment and it's all fine again. The menopause is a classic example. So many scary stories and I sailed through it, but I did have lots of little niggling health issues and it was just vitamin levels going crazy. Not all these things will happen to you. Do exercise for your pelvic floor and do impact exercise that jolt your bones so that you won't lose density (walking, running etc, not swimming or cycling for example). If I was really affected by skin elasticity I would avoid sugar and sunlight as they destroy collagen. So there are lots of things you can do now to slow it down.

I think the main thing I'm worried about is my face looking older. Like, lines and skin elasticity. I could definitely still pass for 20 something, but I'm still only 30, so that could change in several years. Especially with all the stressing out that I do. But as far as kids go, I don't have any either. I did get pregnant several years ago with the help of fertility drugs, but my body just would not accept it for some reason, and I had a miscarriage at only two weeks. Doctors said that it could possibly be because our blood types didn't mix well (I'm B- and I think he's A+). First time I've ever heard anything like that, but yeah. They said it could be fixed with a vaccine, but I really didn't care to try again after that because I was afraid of it happening again anyway. And yeah, I realize I'm not getting any younger, but neither of us can support a child anyway. Plus, with all my issues and his issues...hell, I don't know what that poor kid would turn out like. So I'm not in any rush. And like you said, adoption is always an option too.

It's hard for me to enjoy anything because I always feel like I have no energy. I either sleep very choppy, not at all or too much. So I feel like I can't do much of anything and that can be limiting.

I don't worry about aging because I've never had my health, and I age like a dog. My hip was shot at 15, I started losing my hair in my early 20's and with my health the chances are very slim that I'll live to see retirement. Assuming that none of my other organs fail in the next few years, my heart will most likely give out because of the added strain it's forced to endure. That's not just me being pessimistic - that's the forecast from my doctor. So, no......I don't worry about getting old because I won't get old.

Nope, ageing doesn't faze me in the slightest...I started greying at eighteen, and started losing my hair at thirty.. No matter, as I just shave my head these days..It is what it is. I will roll with the punches.. I'm fifty-one, and with any luck, a stroke or massive coronary will shuffle off this cursed mortal coil well before I hit sixty!

My sister had a healthy child at 41, so I'd say don't give up hope on kids... There are certain risks the older you conceive, but they are a negligible percentage these days..