I just found out i have anxious-preoccupied attachment style. And I'm miserable because of it.
Individuals with an anxious-preoccupied attachment style are characterized by a strong desire for closeness and intimacy in their relationships, but they often experience high levels of anxiety and uncertainty about the availability and responsiveness of their attachment figures.[2] This attachment style is associated with a negative model of the self and a positive model of others, leading to a preoccupation with relationships and a fear of abandonment.[3]
Anxious-preoccupied individuals tend to have a heightened sensitivity to emotional cues and a tendency to perceive more pain intensity and unpleasantness in others.[4] This may be due to the projection of their own "actual-self" traits onto their perception of others.[5] They tend to be more concerned about reaching their therapeutic goals and perceive less positive outcomes from their most recent crying episode in therapy, especially when the relationship with their therapist is not strong.[2]
Individuals with this attachment style tend to have a negative self-view and a vacillating or split view of others, which can contribute to interpersonal dysfunction.[6]
Anxious-preoccupied individuals have more opportunities to reflect on their emotions, leading to a heightened ability to understand and express their feelings.[7] They may rely on self-silencing strategies and restrict the expression of negative emotions, particularly in the context of close relationships.[8]
that is just SO anti self
its from trauma, so i cant control it. but i wish i could, because i base my self-worth on things such as coping mechanisms and trauma responses even. i want brain surgery so badly to make me less clingy, less emotionally volatile, more stoic and rational and independent.
"The sunk cost fallacy occurs when people continue an endeavor or course of action despite it being more beneficial to abandon it. It is the tendency to make irrational decisions based on the misconception that changing course would invalidate previous time, money, or effort invested."
EVERYTHING I DO NOT WANT TO BE I AM
Individuals with an anxious-preoccupied attachment style are characterized by a strong desire for closeness and intimacy in their relationships, but they often experience high levels of anxiety and uncertainty about the availability and responsiveness of their attachment figures.[2] This attachment style is associated with a negative model of the self and a positive model of others, leading to a preoccupation with relationships and a fear of abandonment.[3]
Anxious-preoccupied individuals tend to have a heightened sensitivity to emotional cues and a tendency to perceive more pain intensity and unpleasantness in others.[4] This may be due to the projection of their own "actual-self" traits onto their perception of others.[5] They tend to be more concerned about reaching their therapeutic goals and perceive less positive outcomes from their most recent crying episode in therapy, especially when the relationship with their therapist is not strong.[2]
Individuals with this attachment style tend to have a negative self-view and a vacillating or split view of others, which can contribute to interpersonal dysfunction.[6]
Anxious-preoccupied individuals have more opportunities to reflect on their emotions, leading to a heightened ability to understand and express their feelings.[7] They may rely on self-silencing strategies and restrict the expression of negative emotions, particularly in the context of close relationships.[8]
that is just SO anti self
its from trauma, so i cant control it. but i wish i could, because i base my self-worth on things such as coping mechanisms and trauma responses even. i want brain surgery so badly to make me less clingy, less emotionally volatile, more stoic and rational and independent.
"The sunk cost fallacy occurs when people continue an endeavor or course of action despite it being more beneficial to abandon it. It is the tendency to make irrational decisions based on the misconception that changing course would invalidate previous time, money, or effort invested."
EVERYTHING I DO NOT WANT TO BE I AM
