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Mr. Bauta

Mr. Bauta

Active Member
#2
#2
I know what you mean. That peace of solitude is nice to have until it becomes one of those misinterpreted wishes. All you want is someone to ask how you’re doing and seeing what they’ve been up to. Instead we interact with so many people that come and go that we can’t really have a stable social foundation for a relationship.
 
So so tired

So so tired

Well-Known Member
#10
#10
seabird said:
Just that I am so drained &
tired of lonleiness, which is different than being alone.
Can anyone relate?
I can and do enjoy alone time, not loneliness.
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*sadhug
I think its possible to feel loneliness even when amongst a million people if the one or two people you need and want are not there.
As much as friends and family may try to make us feel included, their is many a time when loneliness sets in.
It is exhausting and our tolerance can deteriorate over time. I can relate.
Its OK to enjoy our own company at times but the lack of social interaction brings isolation and the subsequent withdrawal from life.
I know it's not the same as irl but you will never to alone here amongst your friends.
Hugs to you *hug

So so tired.
 
seabird

seabird

meandering home
SF Supporter
#15
#15
I know it’d be bad to give in to the negative thoughts. There’s no clear indication of a positive solution. So my only choice is to maintain some level of self-care. That might be possible for another year.
If things haven’t improved by then, it’ll be the end.
 
seabird

seabird

meandering home
SF Supporter
#17
#17
I'm grateful about being alone today. It dawned on me how much of the focus was on cocktail hour. It's not like they didn't get lots of stuff accomplished but it always led up to opening the beers etc.

They drink every night but don't think of themselves as a drinker. That's the trickiest part because I had to agree, to reflect back to them their false image of who they are.

It's wierd & a lot of work to pretend all the time & it's a relief to be away from it & having to be social.
 
Winslow

Winslow

My Toughest Problem Has Been Solved.
SF Supporter
#18
#18
seabird said:
Maybe it’s when I’m alone that the wounds can safely continue healing; noone’s mental or emotional contact to set off the pain.
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Point well-taken, seabird, I agree. Sometimes isolation is the best way to heal.
Then there are also some who go to the extreme by becoming hermits. Total Isolation. Because they want to avoid any more hurts.
Just wondering---would becoming a hermit be too extreme for you? Just wondering.
 
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