I had a few attempts at hurting myself a couple months ago. Everytime, I stopped myself and was alone in my distress. So, do people really do prevent others from commiting suicide? How to acrually work to pevent it? I know the might seem obvious to some, but I really don't that much hope in strangers.
What is it like to be rescued?
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I can relate to this
At times I was just hurting myself because I desperately wanted someone to care
Then obviously that vicious cycle that it seemed like they only cared when I was suicidal and then I was alone again.
I am sorry I don't have answer to your question.
I won't say one person rescued me or if anyone ever truly did
I just found some comfort enough to hold on during those times from different places.
Try to create a list of things that bring you comfort
Go to them everytime you feel suicidal
I think something we need is someone to be there when we are that low , I can be wrong and it may differ for person to person
In that case .. if you have someone to whom you can reach out at times like such it's nice
Otherwise hotline numbers , SF
And trying to bring yourself comfort may help
At times I was just hurting myself because I desperately wanted someone to care
Then obviously that vicious cycle that it seemed like they only cared when I was suicidal and then I was alone again.
I am sorry I don't have answer to your question.
I won't say one person rescued me or if anyone ever truly did
I just found some comfort enough to hold on during those times from different places.
Try to create a list of things that bring you comfort
Go to them everytime you feel suicidal
I think something we need is someone to be there when we are that low , I can be wrong and it may differ for person to person
In that case .. if you have someone to whom you can reach out at times like such it's nice
Otherwise hotline numbers , SF
And trying to bring yourself comfort may help
Just my experience, but I had to give up on the hope of being rescued. As a child, I was, letās say, not in a healthy environment. I was still dependent on the adults who didnāt care about me for food and shelter. I had considered running away. I had friends at school who were in foster care, and I decided to stay in the hell I knew instead of risking what happened to my friends. I had strong fantasies of being rescued, but it never happened. Ultimately I had to save myself.
In hindsight, I would have regretted it if I was saved, even given those circumstances. The problem with depending on others is that they necessarily let you down. They may decide that you are a burden and resent you for inconveniencing them. They might do the opposite and keep you trapped in dependency, and then thereās the other thing humans do with alarming consistency, which is that they die. Thereās no scenario that I can see that being rescued would ever work out long term.
By contrast, by relying on myself, I have realized that I am super resilient, either by developing it through practice, or maybe I simply discovered what was already there. Self efficacy can be learned, and thatās important because depression and trauma frequently decimate our senses of our own self-efficacy.
In hindsight, I would have regretted it if I was saved, even given those circumstances. The problem with depending on others is that they necessarily let you down. They may decide that you are a burden and resent you for inconveniencing them. They might do the opposite and keep you trapped in dependency, and then thereās the other thing humans do with alarming consistency, which is that they die. Thereās no scenario that I can see that being rescued would ever work out long term.
By contrast, by relying on myself, I have realized that I am super resilient, either by developing it through practice, or maybe I simply discovered what was already there. Self efficacy can be learned, and thatās important because depression and trauma frequently decimate our senses of our own self-efficacy.
I just want to highlight this, because self efficacy can be a really important part of recovery!
Personally I used to find myself lost very frequently in fantasies about being rescued, and in my case, I think the idea of it served to increase my suicidal thoughts because I felt like I needed to be in a time of crisis so I could go and seek that help from other people. Then when I got the caring reaction from others, it almost became like a reward leading me to express feeling suicidal more often. A doctor I met in the hospital once helped me see how I needed to start figuring out how to gain reassurance internally, and my outpatient psychiatrist helped me see that the way I was dealing with things before wasnāt really compatible with the goals Iāve been working toward. Iām still a work in progress, but I feel a lot more in control now that Iāve accepted my own responsibility.
(This was only my perspective; Iām not trying to say this will apply in every situation, but I felt this might be helpful to share.)
Personally I used to find myself lost very frequently in fantasies about being rescued, and in my case, I think the idea of it served to increase my suicidal thoughts because I felt like I needed to be in a time of crisis so I could go and seek that help from other people. Then when I got the caring reaction from others, it almost became like a reward leading me to express feeling suicidal more often. A doctor I met in the hospital once helped me see how I needed to start figuring out how to gain reassurance internally, and my outpatient psychiatrist helped me see that the way I was dealing with things before wasnāt really compatible with the goals Iāve been working toward. Iām still a work in progress, but I feel a lot more in control now that Iāve accepted my own responsibility.
(This was only my perspective; Iām not trying to say this will apply in every situation, but I felt this might be helpful to share.)
To you I'm just a stranger on the internet, but i care. This is a good place to say what you need to say, let your feelings be heard. Typing
it out helps to get it out of your mind.
There isn't really anyone who can rescue you. It's the truth in the world. Most people are stuck living with their own problems in their own head. No one will solve your problems for you. I don't know you, so forgive me if I say anything hurtful. You'll have to be your own best friend in life. It doesn't mean stop reaching out in real life, there is hopefully help for a counselor or some therapy in your area? You do need professional help if you have thoughts of harming yourself.
it out helps to get it out of your mind.
There isn't really anyone who can rescue you. It's the truth in the world. Most people are stuck living with their own problems in their own head. No one will solve your problems for you. I don't know you, so forgive me if I say anything hurtful. You'll have to be your own best friend in life. It doesn't mean stop reaching out in real life, there is hopefully help for a counselor or some therapy in your area? You do need professional help if you have thoughts of harming yourself.
I've been there long ago. It's kind of how females are depicted in tv shows too, like they are waiting for some guy to rescue them. If you're talking about that you wanted anyone to rescue you from commiting suicide, you need professional help. You HAVE to call emergency services.
I had a very crazy experience a very long time ago. I thought I found someone who loved me, and cared, after a serious suicide attempt. I just can't share it. But at least I can say it was a very strong authority figure. I still wonder what would have happened if I didn't go to the extreme I did, and he left me after saying he loved me. I'd say he did me more harm than good.
It's not that people don't want to help you. some people who might be counselors or therapists are in it for the money, or they truly care. You'll have to reach out. We are listening. Tell us more if you like about how you're feeling and how we could help you.
I had a very crazy experience a very long time ago. I thought I found someone who loved me, and cared, after a serious suicide attempt. I just can't share it. But at least I can say it was a very strong authority figure. I still wonder what would have happened if I didn't go to the extreme I did, and he left me after saying he loved me. I'd say he did me more harm than good.
It's not that people don't want to help you. some people who might be counselors or therapists are in it for the money, or they truly care. You'll have to reach out. We are listening. Tell us more if you like about how you're feeling and how we could help you.
Iām unsure of how to reply to this topic, I donāt really know what it feels like to be rescued (to answer the original topic question) so it is only an idea in my mind, Iām sorry I canāt give a detailed description of what itās like. If ever I do truly āexperience thatā then Iāll make sure to come back here and describe it. I imagine it must be a feeling of huge relief, that being said, I have quoted the following reply, which I do ultimately agree with:
I literally do have some experience with this a bit, and it is extremely true. Very wise words for sure. Depressing, as the truth often is of course, but yes, the reality is quite destructive most of the time.
It is a shame imo, because I definitely feel like I am someone who wants to rescue someone, and not to control them, but just to help. I like to think Iām not a ācontrollingā person, I guess the only thing I DO need very strongly is to feel a lot of appreciation and gratitude from the person, hopefully both spoken and āshownā in some way. I donāt find it very rewarding without having those things, maybe that makes me a bad person, but those are my real feelings about it anyway.
I literally do have some experience with this a bit, and it is extremely true. Very wise words for sure. Depressing, as the truth often is of course, but yes, the reality is quite destructive most of the time.
It is a shame imo, because I definitely feel like I am someone who wants to rescue someone, and not to control them, but just to help. I like to think Iām not a ācontrollingā person, I guess the only thing I DO need very strongly is to feel a lot of appreciation and gratitude from the person, hopefully both spoken and āshownā in some way. I donāt find it very rewarding without having those things, maybe that makes me a bad person, but those are my real feelings about it anyway.