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Is it possible to be liked by everyone?

Is it possible to be liked by everyone?

  • Yes

  • No


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Gard

Well-Known Member
#1
Today, it seems utopian to me that one person could be liked by absolutely everyone. But for a while, I had this idea.
This question came up on my path. I would like to hear your opinion. If you don't want to comment, just vote in the poll, please.
Thank you.

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Kiwi2016

🦩 Now a flamingo, not a kiwi 🦩
SF Pro
#7
No it's not. As much as I am a people pleaser by nature, I realize that if you do try to do so I believe at least that you are contorting yourself so much that you can lose yourself in the process. I come by this naturally as my mother was very much a passive people pleaser too and the price can be a big one. I believe that there is a balance where one can be yourself and be respected by others while maintaining your true self...they may not agree with you but if you approach all whose paths you cross with fairness, respect & civility it will be returned to you.
 

puffymilk

SF Supporter
#8
No it's not. As much as I am a people pleaser by nature, I realize that if you do try to do so I believe at least that you are contorting yourself so much that you can lose yourself in the process. I come by this naturally as my mother was very much a passive people pleaser too and the price can be a big one. I believe that there is a balance where one can be yourself and be respected by others while maintaining your true self...they may not agree with you but if you approach all whose paths you cross with fairness, respect & civility it will be returned to you.
I tend to be a people pleaser too and I agree with this
 

Unenthusiastic

Well-Known Member
#10
Today, it seems utopian to me that one person could be liked by absolutely everyone. But for a while, I had this idea.
This question came up on my path. I would like to hear your opinion. If you don't want to comment, just vote in the poll, please.
Thank you.

Some tags: @puffymilk @JMG @AmberMarie @Lane @Witty_Sarcasm @seabird @may71 @SushiGirl @LumberJack @Road to Nowhere @KM76710 @MagickLynx @FFurry @Shelly @AvidFan @Mid Night @Inastorm @cymbele @Angie @maybeicanheal @1Lefty @SillyOldBear @1964dodge @IRE1992 @Mid Night @Baywasp @Auri @Licorice @Gonz @HappyKitty @Fbr27 @Kiwi2016 @Reality @Atreides @Shinzon1 @JanisSPK
I think only the antichrist can be universally liked?
 
#11
The secret to being liked by everyone, or at least as many people as possible, is to pretend to be whatever it is that they like. Pretend to agree with them about everything they believe and conform to their expectations. Also, have allies and some power over others, so if anyone starts to dislike you or speak ill of you you can retaliate against them. Make anyone who might dare to oppose you too afraid to do so.

To some degree knowing others preferences and expectations and being "diplomatic" in the way you relate to them is a skill. Getting along with people is not necessarily a bad thing. However this is something that can be taken too far. Unless people like you for who you really are and what you really believe, there's a price to be paid for being liked, and it may be too high.
 

Shinzon1

Well-Known Member
#12
The secret to being liked by everyone, or at least as many people as possible, is to pretend to be whatever it is that they like. Pretend to agree with them about everything they believe and conform to their expectations. Also, have allies and some power over others, so if anyone starts to dislike you or speak ill of you you can retaliate against them. Make anyone who might dare to oppose you too afraid to do so.

To some degree knowing others preferences and expectations and being "diplomatic" in the way you relate to them is a skill. Getting along with people is not necessarily a bad thing. However this is something that can be taken too far. Unless people like you for who you really are and what you really believe, there's a price to be paid for being liked, and it may be too high.
I vibe with this at a certain level and used it to a degree of success.

The downside is to me that ultimately you will burn out. I'm still trying to decide if it's manipulation from a moral perspective.

I tried to unalive myself in 2023 after almost two years of basically creating a algorithm in my head for processing those social interactions.
 

Reality

SF Supporter
#13
I know for certain I'm not liked by some people. And to me that's a good thing. it means I'm not basing my life on what other people value, but just being ok with who i am and being my authentic self which is being true to myself and not doing anything to be liked. I find it's rare that someone comes to me and says ''i like you''but it's still ok. I'd rather the truth be told than to live as someone I'm not. I used to do this a bit, like what someone else does to fit in. Or pretend to be happy in situations where I definitely didn't benefit from not being true to my own beliefs and core values.
 

Gonz

₲‹›Ŋʑ
#14
One can try to be likeable, liked by as many as possible, and that’s a fine goal. But that likeability needs to be a part of your personality, and it needs to come with an acceptance that not everyone will respond to it.

Trying to be liked by literally everybody is stupid, will never happen, and will inevitably change someone for the worse the harder they try.
 

KM76710

Kangaroo Manager
SF Pro
SF Supporter
#16
I would also say no. People are too different with varying opinions so they will so often disagree. It is a short step from believing someone is wrong to thinking they must be stupid, evil, whatever so you get resentment and frustrations when people are on opposite sides. It can be anything from the goofy and joking like how to hang toilet paper to serious issues like religion and politics which really divide people.
 

Gard

Well-Known Member
#17
Thank you all for your wonderful answers, you have confirmed my guesses *shake


I believe that there is a balance where one can be yourself and be respected by others while maintaining your true self...
Unless people like you for who you really are and what you really believe, there's a price to be paid for being liked, and it may be too high.
For me, it became a question of respecting personal boundaries. Either I would be liked by someone and betray myself, or I would not be liked and remain true to myself. Yes, it was a difficult choice.

And in the end, it is possible to live without another person, even though it is difficult. But it is simply impossible to live without yourself.
 

Gonz

₲‹›Ŋʑ
#19
I Only a handful of people truly like me
I’m one of them!

One can try to be likeable, liked by as many as possible, and that’s a fine goal. But that likeability needs to be a part of your personality, and it needs to come with an acceptance that not everyone will respond to it.

Trying to be liked by literally everybody is stupid, will never happen, and will inevitably change someone for the worse the harder they try.
I meant to say a genuine part of your personality. That part is important.
 

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