Another little progress

Hello everyone. I just thought I would share a little progress that's been happening in my life lately. I found a way to minimize contact with someone with NPD; you just can't be around them. I've always complained here about not being able to escape and having to live with my NPD mom and not having a job and having to deal with her crap everyday. Well, now I've been trying to leave the house more, so I don't seem "lazy" and simply just to avoid her. I've heard many stories of people with NPD family member having better relationships with their NPD family member after not communicating with them for a while. That's what I'm doing. I'm constantly planning to go wherever every week, at least 2-3 times. I don't even care if I have to be alone. I just need some break from her draining me and sucking the life out of me. I guess for now the obstacle is the weekend. I hate going out on the weekend because it's so crowded everywhere. The reason I only go out on the weekdays because places are pretty chill during. Also, usually on the weekend my dad would want some sort of family time with my mom, which I can't really avoid. I can only make so many excuses to not go and I actually prefer my dad than my mom and I hate disappointing him. And I understand him wanting to spend time with the family. I'm still thinking about what I can do during the weekend because today we were having a pretty good family time, but during on the way to our house my mom literally wouldn't stop talking about some bullcrap that of course in an NPD typical style, she managed to find some tiny little mistake during our conversation that pissed her off. That alone, drained me, gave me a headache, and ruined my day.

I think your progress is strong. I understand pretty well bc of leaving my NPD partner.
For me it is taking a huge amount of focused thought and time to get my own perspective back because of years of manipulation; they need to pull you back to their viewpoint on everything.

You can do it @puffymilk

Yes - leaving the house is basically the best option for now.
It's worth pointing out that often people drastically
overestimate how well somebody with a mental illness is
functioning because they don't see the sufferer's internal distress.

Back when I was on any antidepressants , my therapist's goal for me
was just to go for a walk while my parents couldn't
understand why I wasn't interviewing.

I have a lot more positive thoughts these days. Not always, but it's certainly a progress if you want to compare it to last year, or the end of 2023.

I hope that you have more positives in life going forward.