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Love and depression

Jezah81

Well-Known Member
#1
Sometimes as depressed suicidal people we can feel like nobody can ever love us for who we are. I know I was like that until I met Cinthia my beautiful fiancee. She accepted me and I accepted her. We love each other even though we're both struggling with depression anxiety and a whole host of other things. Believe me when I say this, I never thought id find someone who would understand me. But miracles happen and I found her accidentally !
So i think this message is important for everyone.
Love isn’t based on perfection.
People don’t love others because they’re always happy or functional—they love them for who they are: their kindness, their sense of humor, their resilience, their uniqueness. Depression is something you experience, not something you are.
Empathy and connection thrive through honesty.
When you let someone see your pain, your struggle, it can deepen the bond. Vulnerability is not weakness—it’s a bridge.
Depression doesn’t erase your worth.
You’re still the person who can comfort a friend, enjoy a good song, care deeply about others, and have dreams—even if right now those things feel distant.
Loving someone means being present, not fixing everything.
A good partner or friend won’t expect you to be “better” to be loved. They’ll walk beside you, even when things are hard.
I know my life will always be filled with pain and suffering, but I have a partner who will be with me until the end who will suffer with me, and enjoy the good times when they come .
 

Gonz

₲‹›Ŋʑ
#8
When we were just friends, Jessica never tried to “fix” me; she just acted like (believed) I was good enough as is.

She kept it up when we got together. It’s really hard to say no to a pretty girl who acts like she’ll fix all your problems if you just love her enough, but it just doesn’t work.

Someone who wants you around despite your flaws is precious. Not someone who tries to fix your flaws for you, but someone who values you despite your flaws.
 

Lekatt

Love Cats Love All
SF Supporter
#9
This is a really good thread. Yes
Love does not care what you are feeling or not feeling. Love is for you, just as you are, because you are. There are no requirements or rules. It comes from within and recognizes your innate value. We all have this value, and everyone is loved even if they are not aware of it.
 

Gonz

₲‹›Ŋʑ
#11
Nah, I mean that the way she treated me is a big part of why we became more than friends.

It’s why I wanted that anyway. I still don’t know what the hell she was thinking, lol.
 

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