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Practical Advice Feedback vs criticism

IRE1992

SF Supporter
#1
For the past fortnight I been trying to get better at not taking feedback
at whatever hobbies I'm doing at he moment.

I previous response is to take any corrections /suggestions as crippling
flaws in my efforts and fell utterly demotivated.
This has proven to be a big barrier to starting any kind of new activity.

Some suggestion from my therapist and my own ideas:

1. (Therapist) Feedback is different form criticism and involves advice on improving
something further not scrapping it altogether. - So implying I'm discounting largely
positive progress.
2. (Me) Respond and offer my own suggestions so it becomes two-way
learning and collaborative.


How do others keep motivated?
 
#2
If you don't want anyone to give you feedback about your hobbies, I think it's ok to tell people that.

Maybe you can learn to interpret feedback differently over time.

A lot depends on the context. If you know and trust the people who are offering feedback, maybe you could request only encouraging comments.
 

IRE1992

SF Supporter
#3
If you don't want anyone to give you feedback about your hobbies, I think it's ok to tell people that.

Maybe you can learn to interpret feedback differently over time.

A lot depends on the context. If you know and trust the people who are offering feedback, maybe you could request only encouraging comments.
Thanks for the the reply - IMO I was more looking for how to adapt a learning mindset
i.e. treat it as problem solving instead crushing criticism. Feedback is unavoidable in life
and I do need to learn to handle it better.

While I your ideas has good intentions permeant avoidance form things that provoke anxiety
is what has caused my problems to date.
 

snails

Useless currently
#4
Thanks for the the reply - IMO I was more looking for how to adapt a learning mindset
i.e. treat it as problem solving instead crushing criticism. Feedback is unavoidable in life
and I do need to learn to handle it better.

While I your ideas has good intentions permeant avoidance form things that provoke anxiety
is what has caused my problems to date.
Feedback can be really difficult. Are you the sort of person who can't stop thinking about things that have been said? I am. I am therefore not a good person to help you with that but speaking with your therapist sounds a good plan.
It's incredible difficult what you're doing and courageous. I have respect for you.
 

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