Practical Advice (URGENT) I don't want to deal with "services" anymore, how do I get out of it with zero consiquences?

My mom put me on a call about some group home thing. Initially I was just gonna tell them no but then they tried to up sell me on services like dental and therapy. I already have a negative opinion on therapists and because of my situation, going to the dentist is really something that I dread to the point where I'm 99% they're just gonna yank everything out judging by what they said and judging by how they scrutinized me. My mom pressured me into saying yes saying I'd benefit from it or something. I don't want this, I don't want any of this. I'd rather kill myself then have this. I need to find a way to say no after the fact. I hate everything.

Not even my girlfriend wants to help me, she's too busy on her "walks" to check Discord. And I don't wanna text her because too much stress has already been put on texts before. Please someone help.

Can you just not go if you don't want to? Do you really have to explain yourself to anyone?

Yes, my mom will just assume I'm being lazy or doing so to stay home and play video games/masturbate (yes really). My mom has always been like this. I can never just talk to her or tell her something because she has to always look into it at 10 different fucking angles.

Well, it's your life, remember that. And I really think that forcing yourself to go through with it just because it's what someone else wants, probably won't benefit you. I would probably just do my best to say that it's not something I believe will help me and I'm not interested.

That is not gonna work, I'd rather die than be berated again for "just wanting to stay home".

I thought you said you'd rather die than go there? Unless I misunderstood?

Yeah I'd rather die than go there or berated again

I see. Then it seems you feel like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place...well, from what I understand, you do want to stay home, but you just don't want to be criticized for staying home. What about offering a different solution? I know you said you don't like outpatient therapy very much either, but it might be something you can compromise on.

I don't know what solution that might be. My parents aren't people that can be easily reasoned with

I think they just want you to get some sort of help it seems. But if you don't want to do the group home, you could try something else is what I'm saying. Staying home and doing nothing at all won't fix anything either.

She's not helping me, she's trying to get more control over my life.

Well, would you really rather do nothing? I mean, I don't think it's the ideal solution, but I guess if you're not ready to get any help, that's also your decision, which you should be able to make at 24 years old.

I didn't ask to be insulted.

I wasn't insulting you. I was saying that you have control over your own life at your age and the decision is yours. No one else can make it for you.

I just don't want to deal with my parents bullshit or the services

I understand. And I'm sorry that you find yourself dealing with this. I do hope that you find a way to speak with them about this. I wish I knew what to tell you to say, but you know your parents best. Just don't let anyone force you into something you don't want. It's okay not to be ready to do what they want you to.

I kind of thought of a plan but I didn't want to sound like a prude and I HATE enabling my parent's political ideology and I'm a strong believer in intents not words but right now my plan is hinging on the fact that the place has the R-slur in the name as a "scientific" meaning and saying I don't wish to support a company that uses that terminology. I HATE doing that but I feel like I have to...

This place sounds sketchy if they're pushing services even if you're saying no.

Are you against the idea of going to any group home, or just this one? Is this something that your parents would finance, or the government?

Because I value privacy and having my own room. I don't like the idea of sharing a room with someone else who isn't my girlfriend.