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The looking for job challenge is still more than I can take

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#1
There are several things I would have to tell about it, but I kind of feel, I need a topic here for it all.

It'll probably will take time for infodump.

Maybe one of the short versions is: I am really suffering from PTSD from my previous jobs, where I worked with ADHD not knowing that it was ADHD, constantly with executive dysfunction, constantly in fear of getting repercussions for the work not done because of executive dysfunction, and eventually of burning out - and I did burn out on my two last jobs. Right now it is very difficult for me to continue sending CVs anywhere... because there are a lot of thoughts involved about what it may be eventually...

Time's running out, it's about 2 months before I should have a good financial solution about how I should live further, and where I should find the money to buy food, and I don't know what to do.
 

Kiwi2016

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#4
There are several things I would have to tell about it, but I kind of feel, I need a topic here for it all.

It'll probably will take time for infodump.

Maybe one of the short versions is: I am really suffering from PTSD from my previous jobs, where I worked with ADHD not knowing that it was ADHD, constantly with executive dysfunction, constantly in fear of getting repercussions for the work not done because of executive dysfunction, and eventually of burning out - and I did burn out on my two last jobs. Right now it is very difficult for me to continue sending CVs anywhere... because there are a lot of thoughts involved about what it may be eventually...

Time's running out, it's about 2 months before I should have a good financial solution about how I should live further, and where I should find the money to buy food, and I don't know what to do.
I am so sorry that you are struggling with this..I endured a toxic work environment too so know how hard it is to navigate yet another job search. I wondered is it possible for you to find something which you enjoy and volunteer as this could possibly help alleviate some of your stress about a job and maybe could lead to employment or new connections for you?
 

foreverforgotten

Quiet Observer 🦋
SF Supporter
#5
I'm in the same boat as you. For some the same reasons.. adhd, (I had bullying too because they think im dumb), executive dysfunction, bad performance..and burnout. I quit. Before they could fire me. I haven't looked yet after a month unemployed yet.. I have only little hope. For this job market..
its time to try again. But I'm not feeling good enough for any job to hire me.

Please keep us posted.. and keep trying. I'm wishing you luck too..from over here. I'm rooting fir you.
 
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#6
I don't have an answer for you, but I have similar problems.

I've been unemployed my entire adult life.
I just turned 34.
I have lots of health problems too.

The only reason I'm not homeless is because of handouts from my parents and the government.
But that might be on its way out soon.

I tried to find a way to work from home, but it's either too hard for me, or I'm too scared to try.
I'm afraid I'll do something wrong and get in trouble.

I hope things get better for you.*console
I'm sorry I can't be of any help.
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#7
Thank you all for answers.. I did the strange thing - I haven't reloaded this page, and only now saw all the replies. I'd give my replies then.

What is your country's situation with social security/unemployment benefits?
I am now an emigrant in Argentina, and I'm still in the process of legalizing my status. While the legalization as a refugee goes on its way, as far as I understand I am very limited in what unemployment benefits I have, if any. That's kind of how it goes here - emigrants/refugees here early gain access to getting local banking cards, right to work, but no benefits, we have to find work ourselves - or preferrably have a remote one before coming here, which I didn't. And the unemployment situation here is strong, and if locals are willing to employ emigrants, they would prefer Spanish-speaking emigrants from Latin America, and there are a lot of them here.

I am looking for options, helping organizations, but I am staggering with this all, it's kind of overwhelms it, and I go through this entangle of situations at the speed of a turtle, and it really bothers me a lot.
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#8
For some the same reasons.. adhd, (I had bullying too because they think im dumb), executive dysfunction, bad performance..and burnout. I quit....
I feel for you, really. it's good that I wasn't bullied at jobs at least. While some of the managing situations might not have been that pleasant, I don't think what I had really could be classified as bullying. But yeah, dysfunction, burnout and quitting was how my 2 last jobs ended.. and the 3rd last now that I think about it - but at that one I was really dissatisfied with the salary as well, so it was one of the reasons as well.

I should say following, though... looking for clues for what to do with looking for job and adhd, I've ran into this maillist: https://www.pathfinder.coach/imperfectionist - and it helps a bit with this. It's just like I feel it's not enough for me right now, but he has some important clues about it. One take that is to take from that, is that with adhd you tend to fear or to overestimate how this or that job wouldn't suit you, and that would prevent you from applying/connecting/sending CV etc. I know this, I am struggling with this as hell, but at least I keep that in mind. Sometimes you'd have just to try to apply even if you don't feel like you're suitable for that, because this could be just negative overestimation.

Another take he's trying to make is that ADHD and job search can become a lot about the flow. Traditional job searching methods wouldn't work in this situation, it's more about trying to connect with job offers on the topics that would really excite, possibly even provoke hyperfocus, talk to people about jobs rather then trying directly to sell oneself, make the job search a campaign.

It's actually one of the reasons I am writing all these here, sometimes, with or even without answers, after all this I feel like I can do something more fruitful regarding actual job hunt.
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#9
Today I learned that one of the leads for the possible job, that I was really looking for lately... probably may be not really that promising. I'll know some details more tomorrow, but it's really disappointing, because right now I don't have any real alternative, and time is really running out. Was rather depressed because of that all day.
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#10
I wrote in another thread that I am (probably suppressing but) panicking about my future. Have to say, that it really comes in my dreams. Over the course of the day I'm doing something, considering some possibilities - which are more bleak and bleak day after day, but I don't want to think about it. And about 3 or 4 hours after I go to sleep I wake up from nightmares. It actually a pattern, that with some breaks actually repeats almost all of the 2 years that I'm living here, in Argentina.
 

Gard

Well-Known Member
#11
I wrote in another thread that I am (probably suppressing but) panicking about my future. Have to say, that it really comes in my dreams. Over the course of the day I'm doing something, considering some possibilities - which are more bleak and bleak day after day, but I don't want to think about it. And about 3 or 4 hours after I go to sleep I wake up from nightmares. It actually a pattern, that with some breaks actually repeats almost all of the 2 years that I'm living here, in Argentina.
2 years in Argentina is pretty good! I would also like to visit Lionel Messi's homeland one day :)
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#12
2 years in Argentina is pretty good! I would also like to visit Lionel Messi's homeland one day :)
The country of really friendly but sometimes cunny people. But I was only able to live here that long, because my friend gave me a place to live. And now this time is running out.
 

foreverforgotten

Quiet Observer 🦋
SF Supporter
#13
I feel for you, really. it's good that I wasn't bullied at jobs at least. While some of the managing situations might not have been that pleasant, I don't think what I had really could be classified as bullying. But yeah, dysfunction, burnout and quitting was how my 2 last jobs ended.. and the 3rd last now that I think about it - but at that one I was really dissatisfied with the salary as well, so it was one of the reasons as well.

I should say following, though... looking for clues for what to do with looking for job and adhd, I've ran into this maillist: https://www.pathfinder.coach/imperfectionist - and it helps a bit with this. It's just like I feel it's not enough for me right now, but he has some important clues about it. One take that is to take from that, is that with adhd you tend to fear or to overestimate how this or that job wouldn't suit you, and that would prevent you from applying/connecting/sending CV etc. I know this, I am struggling with this as hell, but at least I keep that in mind. Sometimes you'd have just to try to apply even if you don't feel like you're suitable for that, because this could be just negative overestimation.

Another take he's trying to make is that ADHD and job search can become a lot about the flow. Traditional job searching methods wouldn't work in this situation, it's more about trying to connect with job offers on the topics that would really excite, possibly even provoke hyperfocus, talk to people about jobs rather then trying directly to sell oneself, make the job search a campaign.

It's actually one of the reasons I am writing all these here, sometimes, with or even without answers, after all this I feel like I can do something more fruitful regarding actual job hunt.
I will check out that mailing list. Thank you for posting that. That is true.. all these jobs seem like I'm so under qualified for them. but it won't hurt to still apply anyways. I've been told before that when they post all those jobs, the requirements are more like a wishlist. Hoepfully..

*hug sending you hugs. I think if we keep trying everyday, something has to work eventually. I might have to do 2 part time jobs, or random things if I must for now.
 
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Gard

Well-Known Member
#14
The country of really friendly but sometimes cunny people. But I was only able to live here that long, because my friend gave me a place to live. And now this time is running out.
Perhaps the housing problem is one of the biggest problems everywhere.

I've been told before that when they post all those jobs, the requirements are more like a wishlist.
They write them using ChatGPT :D
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#16
Today is the day of the new migratorial regulations in Argentina. It will be more difficult to finalize the process of obtaining citizenship here. It's unclear if it really concern me directly, since what's I'm mostly concerned is as the process of obtaining the job, and it looks like that that part is not affected (access to free/affordable health services might be, though). But the amount of emotions connected to this, thoughts of "what next?" is overwhelming. Especially as Trump continues to be the hero of our new president (and some of the deportation procedures seem to be inspired by what Trump is doing).
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#17
Well, it's confirmed.. almost... In my case, the citizenship process will be 3 years longer.. if the new law wouldn't be contested, which it might be, because Argentina, luckily, is still a democracy unlike some other states :( Chances that it will be contested successfully, are not very high, though.

All of that really not the most of what matters to me, because finding a job in the next 2 month is of ultimate importance, if I don't want to run into dangerous financial situation.

And finding friends actually.. because in spite of everything that's happening, I really feel lonely...
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#18
I feel worse today again. Tried some modifications of my food regimen, testing how I'd be saving money on more cheap food.. ended up hungry...
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#19
I hate it that the world is so stupidly complicated... I kind of want only to do the following: lie on the bed under the covers, sometimes get up to cook some pasta and eat it, lie down again...
 

FieryL

extremely and unhealthy anxious about future
#20
Found humor in thinking, that while I don't know what to do to survive in the following months, I do have a lot of things I have to do today and right now. At least something to keep me busy and not going into depression.

Sleeping with something calming going on in my phone near my ear proves useful again and again, I sleep better. Now that that damned repairs above have already finished, I can do it again.

I have to reask about the interview planned in 2 places, always feeling too shy to do it, especially as its minor positions like cleaner....

Also I finally have to reinstall dual boot on this new (for me) notebook, like I am always doing on the computers I'm using, and I'm having fear to do this, because I fear to do something wrong, because I'm so unstable right now.
 

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