''family''

I'm upset with both sons. When it comes to me needing something, they absolutely dont care. I've helped them with everything. I'm really upset with my older son right now. If he wanted anything, like a ride somewhere, or help with something I'd do it. I even gave them a portion of my inheritance to help out. And the older one blew it with a big mistake he's responsible for. All I asked when I finally got an answer, was to get me a few items of food, because I'm sick.

He went into a large rant at me. How he said he blocked my number for 6 months before. I got so hurt and angry i hung up and blocked him. He's a grown adult in his 30s. I'd think helping your own mother when youre not even 1 km away at night is not a lot to ask for. I even said you take my cash or card. The younger one too, I'm tired of being manipulated to feel guilty. He's homeless. I can't fix it for him. I gave in to food money this morning but I have to stop. I told my older son that because he never answers his phone I changed my emergency contact to my brother. I did this a month ago. I'm glad I did. I needed to rant.

I'm sorry your sons haven't been there for you.

I remember once asking my brother to drive me to the grocery store when I was sick, and he just started rolling his eyes and whining like it was the end of the world to ask him to do this. This is the same guy that asked me to stay up all night to help him move apartments, which I did without complaining at all.

The point being that it's common for people who have been done enormous favors to be unwilling to return them in the slightest. I wish your sons were better to you.

Sending hugs

Thank you. I'm almost done with my ''people pleasing'' behaviour. I have a lot of empathy and that gets me taken advantage of. Also I usually think someone else knows better than myself what if right for me. Example is my brother encouraged me to get a bike. Well he doesn't know, nor do my sons, that my back is pretty bad. So I'm laying here after the second try to bike somewhere, lost one bag, and thankful I have opiods. People just don't get it, and explaining it just sounds whiny to them. even my younger was yelling over the phone last night, so he didn't help get me a couple things, although I've helped him too much.