Things emotionally abusive people say/have said to us.

I've heard so much different crap come out of my own husband's mouth that hurt like a bitch, and the latest one, I think, really took the cake.


This was a couple of days ago, the last time that I relapsed (because both he, and that POS we now live with, persisted to get high right in front of my face):

Him: "I really hope that last shot puts you out permanently".


I don't think he even realizes nor cares how much that one fucking hurt coming from my own goddamned spouse. He's already long over it, like it's no big deal.

What are some of the things that the abusive or manipulative people in your life have said to you before? This will be the thread to say it in. Maybe, one day, we read all this shit back to ourselves and open our eyes to how much abuse we've taken from all these fucks and then simply "swept under the rug", so to speak, despite it still hurting us.

Oh dear, I have quite a list... Just a few from my brain at 1% of its capacity :

"It's always my fault, I am the worst mother in the world, I know you think that. Blablabla..." (shifting the blame and me reassuring her)

"I'll beat you to death/murder you."

"You're good for nothing."

One of the worst to me personally : "I don't know what I'll do if you don't reply to me." (or any variation implying suicide)

Recently : "You make me want to throw up."

"You're lucky you have me because no one else would want you."

A few weeks later he was punching me in my face.

You are a wasted conversation.

You are collateral damage.

I have No sympathy for you

Just go do it (kill yourself).

Just like our minds lie to us, these manipulative narcissistic abusers lie. Fuck them. they’re wrong.

Yep. Definitely heard that one before more than once. That's a flat-out lie, though. I do hope you know that.

I've heard this line from my mother, too. Funny how similar and predictable they are, isn't it? She's clearly just looking for your reassurance that she's been a "good" mother. And the only reason she would even need that kind of reassurance would be because she knew she fucked up. So stop giving it to her.

Only a few posts in, and I'm already seeing a clear pattern with the shit they say. Their lack of originality and predictability is actually quite amusing.

From him:

I wouldn't go in the water if I were you, someone might think you're a whale and harpoon you.

Let's face it, you don't have the ankles for heels.

You'll need a mobility scooter to get up that hill.

From my mother:

Your brother inherited all the good genes and left you with the rubbish.

Don't bother trying to look nice. You can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear.

If you ever manage to get a boyfriend you'd better marry him quick because nobody else will ever want you.

Fucking christ...even I wouldn't take that kind of shit from my husband. I'd fucking leave quicker than he could blink. Just like when he thought he could find himself a slut to fuck, thinking I'd just take it like I do everything else, I left. I made it known to him that I do draw the line somewhere. He's lucky I believe that he didn't actually do it, or I'd stay gone.

Him: I love how he (the dumbfuck we live with) lies to my face about getting high, taking me for an idiot.

Me: Yeah...sucks, doesn't it, when someone does that to you? Now you know how I felt when you did it to me.

Him: Don't fucking test me. Not right now. (because he's detoxing)

Me: I know you're hurting and I know it sucks, but I'm not going to be walking on eggshells around you. Look at my face right now and tell me if I look even remotely afraid of you. We're way past that shit. Enough with your fucking threats.


Most people would have just said they were sorry. Like, how fucking hard is that?

My dad called me fat and ugly and worthless.
When I first came out as transgender he told me that if I came in to his work claiming to be a man, he and all his coworkers would laugh in my face.
He also would tell me multiple times that trans people are screwed up/sickos/whatever.

Not everyone has the means to leave and survive

What haven't people said to me? i was bullied a lot in school, mostly about my weight. I was told I look like a sumo and wear size 72 pants. People made up parody songs about me. Once a "friend" said anyone who found me attractive is a blind man or a liar. I mean....there's a lot that I can remember. And it's hard to forget most of it, whether it's true or not.

There is usually at least something you can do. Sometimes it might take some planning. Sometimes you have to make difficult choices. But you're talking to someone who literally has no one left to help her anymore and absolutely no money at all. And I still found a way. I just chose not to use it (like the idiot that I probably am).

I got made fun of too when I was in school. Probably part of the reason I never bothered to have kids of my own. I never wanted to just bring someone into this fucked up world without giving them a choice in the matter. And not to mention, predisposing them to all of mine (and his) mental illnesses. Fuck, that kid could end up growing up SO fucked up...

I never did bother to come out as pansexual to my family. I could already see how that conversation would have went.

Them: What? What the hell is that?
Me: It means I love people for who they are on the inside, not what's between their legs.
Them: So you're....what? Gay? You can't be. You've always been with men.
Me: That's not the point. And no, I'm not gay. I would just be with either/or...and any gender in between.
Them: That's fucking disgusting. Get out of my sight.

Point is, people are assholes, and the only people I would even bother telling is those who wouldn't judge me.

That is wonderful you did. What may I ask did you do? It would help other people in same situation who feel trapped. Thank you

You deserved it.

Lied to my brother to get him to take me back in after I went back to my husband again. Made it sound like it wasn't my decision to go...whatever it took. Except he still didn't want me to bring my dog, so I said no, nevermind. Didn't think my husband would ever get clean, but surprisingly enough, it seems as though he did. Not sure how long that'll last, of course...but yeah.