How to deal with a partner who suffers from BPD?

I wanted to ask people's opinion and maybe some practical advise on how do I deal with my partner, who has borderline personality disorder? I've been experiencing many difficulties with our relationship and i want to know if there's any things i should know on how to deal with them easier, maybe some tips on how to act in certain situations to avoid getting my partner irrationally upset because it affects both of us negatively

Mine is that'd be a good idea to bring this to a therapist, perhaps a relationship/marriage expert.

It is a good idea i think but it's difficult considering that therapy is really expensive in our country and is not really accessible. We are also university students so that cuts the budget..

Thanks @Jwjba. That's great ou're going to uni. Many universities have therapists available, maybe check to see if yours does? Borderline Personality Disorder is a such a difficult challenge for the partner, friend, &/or family member of the person who has it. There are 2 people in my extended family who have it. For me, I had to establish a distance between myself and them. But thtat's not practical if it's your partner. Do you think you could find a book at your school's library and read up on it?

I think it depends on your partners issues. I have just been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and unofficially autism but I dont have some of the classic BPD traits. I dont fly off the handle, things I get upset with is things like, the other day my neighbour kindly brought my bin up from the road, but he gave me back there one, they of kind of look the same but I got upset as it wasnt mine and it took me ages to build up the confidence to go into their garden and swap them over. My relationship has just ended, a long time, if I could go back and do anything, as they were diagnosed with autism and I think they did have BPD, though they disagreed with this. I would both work on communication. They would fly off the handle and I would dismiss some things they were flying off the handle about, we became combative with each other. Hope that helps.

The problem is how the person thinks and what they believe and fear. Everything stems from that, and it's not easy to fix. But you can make it better usually by staying calm even when they are acting out, giving them reassurance with words and actions that you won't leave them, and being loving and affectionate.

With my situation, i think they thought i would leave them, even though i kept on saying i wasnt/ wouldnt. They end up finding new people to support them and then left me. Its a very tricky situation with any mental health condition.

Yes, that's happened to me before also, so I understand. And yes, it's due to fear of being left.

I've had all symptoms of BPD for years and been diagnosed with it too. I mostly improved but I remember what it's like. What I wanna say is that it's entirely the other person's responsibility. They gotta manage their triggers and make you aware of their needs. Ask them how you should act so they feel safe. If they can't answer then nobody can. You shouldn't be a mind reader and you shouldn't walk on eggshells.