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Fear of intimacy

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Lifeisthis

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#2
#2
Well im not a threpaist or a doctor but sounds like a trust issue. Try to talk it out with someone you feel comfortable with. You will find that person I believe in you. Your safe here too
 
Mimino

Mimino

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#5
#5
I don't of human as pleasant anymore. I don't like being near anyone anymore. For a while I did, that person is gone now. Also, when I needed touch and comforting the most, nobody gave it to me.
 
Licorice

Licorice

Well-Known Member
#6
#6
Autistic people often dislike human touch and physical intimacy (although they also often like it, there's no hard and fast rule).

I think it's within the range of normality, for sure. It's only a problem for you if you're not happy with the situation, and it seems you're not. Were you always like this, or did you become like this?
 
Mimino

Mimino

Well-Known Member
#7
#7
I've become this way, I don't people comfort anymore, becuase its meaningless to me, I wanted help at my lowest point, nobody cared. I care about their feelings or help anymore if they didn't help me at my lowest moment.
 
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Oizys Moros

Well-Known Member
#11
#11
There’s a meme that I came across recently that says something like
“I try my hardest to like people, then they start to like breath and talk… and I just don’t like that “

What’s deemed a societal norm may not be an individual norm.

Know that it is okay to feel that way until you are comfortable challenging that emotion and YOU choose to deviate from it.

I wish you the best in your journey of self-awareness and self-acceptance.
 
kikin

kikin

Member
#12
#12
I feel the same. I don't want my family to touch me anywhere, but it's only my mom who I tell to not touch me, or go away from, because i'm too scared, and anxious to say it to others in my family.
 
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Oizys Moros

Well-Known Member
#13
#13
kikin said:
I feel the same. I don't want my family to touch me anywhere


My family is a hugging family and I didn’t like that from everyone.
I would purposely walk fast or act like I was in a rush or give a look 👀 like please don’t touch me

Eventually they knew that I didn’t want a greeting hug or a goodbye hug

However in hindsight it would have been easier just to say "I don’t want to be hugged and I don’t like shaking hands “

Oh well …. Mission Accomplished anyways
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