Venting Scheduling

Realistically speaking, looking at what I have to be doing over the next month or two, I'm not sure how it possibly fits.

My job with commute consumes 7am-7pm every day, I also have to job hunt, flat hunt, help clear out my current place (family home) of a generation of crap, all without dumping all the cooking and cleaning on my wife which already takes up half of whatever time I have left in a week.

I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do this even with infinite energy, but I am long past the point of budgeting what mental, physical and emotional energies I have left to use, and only this week had to go super solitary to recharge because I went over on that budget and was teetering on the edge of a breakdown. I cant see adding in "clearing out the family home" to that list without having to accept a breakdown and the depression that I can feel will follow.

Looking at the budgets (mental, physical, emotional) I am now playing with the idea of just letting the breakdown and depression happen and fixing the fallout when all this workload has passed, because I honestly don't have the time to play this slowly anymore. The result? Avoidance. I am here instead of doing any of it because I remember depression, and going back terrifies me.

Is there a service that will clean out the family home for you and take what they carry away as payment? I did that with a locker I had in the UK. The deal was, they cleaned it out for free and got to keep everything they took.

Its less the work and more going through everything to separate "keep" from "throw away" and also getting out of the way for the renovations needed to make the house good again before sale.