Forgiving Myself

Sometimes I think I'm too hard on myself. When I'm alone and everything's quiet (or not quiet), I would randomly think about the past and all the mistakes I've done, wishing that I could go back and undo everything, which we all know is impossible, and would end up hating myself. Why was I so weird? Why the hell would I do something like that? Why was I so stupid? I was also told that I'm too hard on myself, and that I should learn how to forgive myself. As humans everyday is a lesson and we're continuously learning, and I think that's true. Some other points that I've learned are:
- Those moments don't define me
- When I'm recognizing my mistakes, feeling regret, and wrestling with forgiveness, that means I'm growing, and I'm not the same person anymore
- I deserve kindness too. You’d forgive someone you love if they made a mistake, right? I deserve that same love from myself

We all make mistakes and wish we had done differently. But we all deserve kindness and forgiveness. We are learners struggling with this think called life. It will get better as we go along. You are doing great, just keep it up. Love.

Forgiving yourself is sometimes so difficult.....
If I knew exactly what it meant....

I am working through the same thing. No matter what you have done, I would tell you to forgive yourself.

Ironically, I can not seem to be able to that for myself. Why is it so hard to do so?

There must be some sort of process for this? You are right tho, PM, we deserve that same love from ourselves.

Exactly. I am still learning on processing this part "I deserve kindness too. You’d forgive someone you love if they made a mistake, right? I deserve that same love from myself", and I think I'm getting better with it, as time goes by. I hope for the same to you

For myself it is not so much forgiving, but a last line from the history book But Not In Shame by John Toland: The past should not be forgotten or forgiven, it should be understood.

It may even be reinterpreted.

This makes so much sense and makes me feel a lot better. Thank you for sharing!

We understand puffy and really care about you

Well said