• Xenforo forums over the past few months have been seeing spam posts from existing user accounts. Bots hitting forums using lists of emails/passwords leaked elsewhere. We strongly recommend that all users change their password ASAP.

I can't wear what I wanna wear

Congratsbaby

Well-Known Member
#1
Hello , I have been trying to find a solution for this but I can't so posting this here
My family members try to control what I wear and I don't like it. I am 16 , indian , muslim
I understand that muslims wear modest clothes but I don't think it's correct to force it upon someone
I don't think I wear anything sexual but even if I do I don't believe it's right for them to comment on that
They have problems with me wearing cut sleeve
And also maybe something that is cropped , cropped but won't necessarily show my skin btw
Or something tight from my chest
The funny thing is I wear all this outside while travelling but I can't wear it in my own home .
My father doesn't let me wear it even outside when I am with him but my mom let's me do it.
She definitely have problems with my clothing but it's really unpredictable with her , sometimes she's alright , other times she's not
I live in a joint family so today for the first time my aunt said " * my name , it's really wrong , don't wear such clothes "
And what am I wearing ? A loose cut sleeve top and it's not cropped and straight jeans
I just can't take it . I know freedom will come when I move away from them.
But is there really nothing I can do ? I kinda feel fear that if my aunt tells my mom and then when my father comes home he's going to say it and then my other uncle might comment on it as everyone would be having problems with it
I would really appreciate if you have any suggestions. I just really don't wanna deal with it. I want to wear what I wanna wear
And it's so sick and sad that I feel unsafe in my house but that's a thing that I don't think can be changed .
 

Licorice

Well-Known Member
#2
When your family tell you that you can't wear this or that, how do you respond? Do you wear it anyway? Do you argue with them? Fight with them? In other words, when they give you a hard time about your clothes, do you give them a hard time right back? Or do you obey them and quietly go get changed?

Also, if I may, who is buying you these clothes they disapprove of? Are you buying them for yourself, or is a family member buying them for you?
 

Congratsbaby

Well-Known Member
#3
When your family tell you that you can't wear this or that, how do you respond? Do you wear it anyway? Do you argue with them? Fight with them? In other words, when they give you a hard time about your clothes, do you give them a hard time right back? Or do you obey them and quietly go get changed?

Also, if I may, who is buying you these clothes they disapprove of? Are you buying them for yourself, or is a family member buying them for you?
It depends. If , I can get away with it I do wear it anyway. I don't argue with them or fight with them unless she ( my mom ) gets physical or throw my things .
Obeying happens when it's really necessary
It's a family member. All my clothes are bought by them and some are gifted but they know what's in my wardrobe.
 

Please Donate to Help Keep SF Running

Total amount
$20.00
Goal
$255.00
Top