Alive but gone

i was amazed at how common this truly is. i always felt like i was so alone in this and as if something was very wrong with me. i don't have many people truly in my life. Those i do have, and have had throughout my life, i build a very strong connection with. A deep friendship of sorts. i care deeply for those in my life, and will move mountains n go to the ends of the earth for them. And when they are no longer there, usually for reasons unknown, it truly hurts. Like a never ending grieving. It's difficult to get closure on that type of grieving. Nonstop wondering if i will run into them at any given moment... which hurts all over again and again.

To me... a friend is someone who is a friend for life. Chosen family. The bond for chosen family is stronger than blood for me. Most likely because of the family i was delt.

The people , the friends you made but are no longer there. Do you still consider them your friends ? I mean , the friends you had
Asking this because I know someone who says " a friendship is for life and if a friendship drifts apart then it was not friendship to begin with "

i have recently been told the same. And have to agree... And boy have i tested this with the one person who told me "A friend is for life or they aren't truly a friend." And this person is still in my life and has told me several times there isn't anything they wont do for me. They also know i will never ask.

But to answer your question... yes. Yes i still consider them friends. i now have some boundaries up... and i will think twice before doing something for them, however, i will still always be there for them... No matter what.

I grieve the man - boy, really - that I married. Over the years he became someone else and eventually left me and we got divorced. I never had another relationship, because I could not have survived that happening to me again.

I see..

Said the blind man....

Sry... bad joke my dad always said and therefore now i do.

Is your dad gone ?

No... he is very much alive and also very well. He has been through loads and turns 80 in 2 weeks. He has had Cancer in his late 40s, a heart attack during Chemo, and a few strokes. He lives alone, no (leashes he calls them) internet or cell phone. i am sarcasm because of him. Make jokes when times are tough and facing something very difficult. Both of which has gotten me through most things in my life.

Glad to hear that
He is a hero on his own 😆

I grieve the man - boy, really - that I married. Over the years he became someone else and eventually left me and we got divorced. I never had another relationship, because I could not have survived that happening to me again.

Same. Well, not a man/boy in my case, but otherwise the same.

i agree fully!