Practical Advice Behind in life vs helpful statements

I'm getting older (31 yrs old) and been increasingly entertaining unhelpful should statements e.g.
"I should be married" , "I should have a mortgage etc. "
What more constructive things to people who are my age or older tell themselves?

Marriage and mortgage are two big commitments that can work out well or be disasters.

There are a lot of people who get married and then regret it. Either they go through an ugly divorce or feel stuck in a marriage they hate. I'm not saying marriage is bad, but there are worse things than being single.

Having a mortgage...that can be great sometimes, but if the value of your home goes below your total mortgage debt, and you lose your job, you're in big trouble.

Beyond that, even when marriage and mortgage are pretty good, some people just feel enslaved by the level of commitment.

Rejoice in your freedom!

Hmmm, idk. I know marriage in my 30s is something i actually consider ideal and hope it will come true, but it may not be ideal to everyone.
But one thing which I think everyone should consider is to start working out and building muscle mass, specially that your 30s is an age where you start losing the mass gradually. If people prevent it from happening that early, and invest in themselves, i believe they are investing for their future, old self. Imagine how many problems regarding movement, muscle deterioration and bone fractures could be prevented if people take care of their health early on.

It's valid to use your own judgent. What are your passions or if you don't have any, then consider and contemplate what you want. For ex., do you want autonomy or to spend your life's time and money on traditional and socially aprroved behaviours. Maybe you already have a life that's good 'enough,' for you. Personally, I am glad to be past the work of some of the 'shoulds,' like my university degree, and done with child-rearing. Those, stated in hindsight, sound easy but they were riddled with reaaly hard and tragic events. I guess what I am taking so ling to say is: life is a series of processes, and it goes by fast.

Agree with the benefits of regular strength training

In your case marriage wouldn't be a should statement as it it appears to be something you want
and brings some fulfillment for you.

Where as "I should be married by now" is a statement motivated by comparison with
others and their expectations and not necessarily by what a person is happy with.

I thinks it important distinguish between the two.