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silly silly boyy (hi)

#1
Hii, im Flan*stars (what a good nickname that is)I found this place by "chance" (something like that ok) There's not much to say, just another teenager who sometimes feels bad. Although lately thoughts about you know, have crossed my mind and the truth is I don't like feeling that way (That was a very stupid thing to say because I mean, who likes to be like that?) And welI- feel tired, I want to do many things but I simply don't have the strength or desire, I know I can improve but it's as if I didn't even do my part to "be better". Ah, life is funny sometimes, isn't it?.

btw: I love the emoticons they have in this place T_T💗*dance4
 

MisterBGone

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SF Supporter
#3
Hii, im Flan*stars (what a good nickname that is)I found this place by "chance" (something like that ok) There's not much to say, just another teenager who sometimes feels bad. Although lately thoughts about you know, have crossed my mind and the truth is I don't like feeling that way (That was a very stupid thing to say because I mean, who likes to be like that?) And welI- feel tired, I want to do many things but I simply don't have the strength or desire, I know I can improve but it's as if I didn't even do my part to "be better". Ah, life is funny sometimes, isn't it?.

btw: I love the emoticons they have in this place T_T💗*dance4
Hi @silly kid :B , thanks - & welcome! I hope you find it not too bad in being here--all things considered! ;) I think teenage years for more than just some, are some of the toughest they will encounter, or go through in their whole entire lives. So don't feel too badly, or as in you're alone, in any way shape or form. There may not be that many of them around here, right now, as in actively being engaged & all. . . though I truly don't know the representation? Perhaps there are other better mediums, or outlets, socials, reddits, etc cet it'z :D (just joking, as you can see I am terrible with technology!). But so just because you don't see a ton of them around, or that many who may be of similar or like age to you, that doesn't mean that they might not be here, and just not posting or getting involved. Sometimes people just like or prefer to watch, observe, and read. For that is what, or the way in which, helps them best. So whatever works for you! And also, a lot of people, others across all different age ranges will just do the same here without ever even registering an account. As many parts or portions of the forum are available to the general public, without having to make an account, and all of that good stuff. So it can be deceiving, at times, just how many people are paying attention to, and in need of some kind of support or another. And which brings me to a question I'd had as to whether you've ever disclosed or told this problems or troubles you've been having with these kinds of thoughts to others? Family members? Doctors? Etc. Because, in case you aren't already aware there is help and care out there that is available to you. That might make you feel better. It's scary to ask for anyone. But especially your first time approaching the subject, as it is a revealing of sorts on your own accord. A showing of your cards to everyone else, that is. There's never any guarantees, that it will work for you. But you don't know until you try! Ha. :) So please feel free to have a look around and if you have any questions on anything. Just feel free to ask. Someone should respond. I hope. : ) Later, mr. b~
 
#4
mmhm, the only time I tried to ask for "help" was to my mom, I told her how I felt in general (at that time I wasn't as "bad" as I feel lately). She offered me "support" but, you know, in the end she is just a woman trying to deal with her growing child, I have also wanted many times to talk to specialists but I just don't have the possibilities at my disposal :C. Anyway I think it would help me a lot of venting in places like these. Thanks for the welcome :3 I don't know if you're a bot or something but anyway thanks hahaha!*stars (I really love that emoji with stars)
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻
#6
Hey Flan 🍮- I don’t know how you feel, but I’m wondering if there’s any perfectionism that affects you? I thought that maybe part of what is not helping you. You do have to work at it to feel better. You have already intuited that, and that shows you have some self awareness already.

What I want to say is, don’t worry about doing your part, as if your mood is a test with exactly one right answer. Even if you knew what it was, it might not work for you. Just try to do a little better than you did yesterday. This is a trial and error process. Small changes work best, because it’s so difficult to stick with huge changes. So it’s okay to experiment and learn from mistakes. It’s really how humans learn anything. Maybe I am all wrong- I don’t see myself as a great judge of character. I just thought maybe it feels really intimidating to fix everything quickly. Small steps are going to take time, but will last longer overall. Hope this helps!
 

MisterBGone

~\_✅`,')
SF Supporter
#7
mmhm, the only time I tried to ask for "help" was to my mom, I told her how I felt in general (at that time I wasn't as "bad" as I feel lately). She offered me "support" but, you know, in the end she is just a woman trying to deal with her growing child, I have also wanted many times to talk to specialists but I just don't have the possibilities at my disposal :C. Anyway I think it would help me a lot of venting in places like these. Thanks for the welcome :3 I don't know if you're a bot or something but anyway thanks hahaha!*stars (I really love that emoji with stars)
HaHa, I might type like a bot, but truthfully, I don't even know exactly what a "bot," is? I mean, I could guess, but if I had to define it... would I get it right? Doubtful~!* ;) Okay, so good at least you've reached out & opened up with your Mom. Now, she may be ill-equipped to handle your request for any number of reasons. Number one: she may downplay their severity. She may not listen to you in full. Or believe what it is you are saying whole-heartedly. She may not know where to turn for help? She may be in denial. Etc. yes, the emojis are a big hit around here! And for/or with - good reason (in my opinion...) :D

If you are in school, they may have counseling services available to you. If you are uncomfortable seeking these out, on your own, you may get some help from a teach whom you trust. Or someone else who is an adult. Whether that be your Mom, or another staff member. Even a secretary or what do they call them now? Administrative Assistant, from down in the office, for example. They may be able to assist you as well~

Keep talking all you like ...There's also the coffee house, game room, and Jim's Cafe` which are popular and a little different change of pace from some of the more serious natured topics on the other portions of the main part of the forum. :) See you later!
 
#8
Jaja, podría escribir como un bot, pero, sinceramente, ni siquiera sé exactamente qué es un "bot". Quiero decir, podría adivinarlo, pero si tuviera que definirlo... ¿lo haría bien? ¡Dudoso~!* ;) Está bien, muy bien, al menos te acercaste y te abriste con tu mamá. Ahora bien, es posible que ella no esté preparada para manejar su solicitud por varias razones. Número uno: puede restablecer importancia a su gravedad. Es posible que ella no te escuche en su totalidad. O cree lo que estás diciendo de todo corazón. ¿Quizás no sepa a quién acudir en busca de ayuda? Ella puede estar en negación. Etc. Sí, ¡los emojis son un gran éxito por aquí! Y por/o con - buena razón (en mi opinión...):D

Si estás en la escuela, es posible que tengas servicios de asesoramiento disponibles para ti. Si no se siente cómodo buscándolos por su cuenta, puede obtener ayuda de un profesor en quien confíe. O alguien más que sea mayor de edad. Ya sea tu mamá u otro miembro del personal. ¿Incluye una secretaria o como les llaman ahora? Asistente administrativo, desde abajo en la oficina, por ejemplo. Es posible que ellos también puedan ayudarte ~

Sigue hablando todo lo que quieras... También está la cafetería, la sala de juegos y el Jim's Café, que son populares y cambian de ritmo un poco diferente de algunos de los temas más serios en las otras partes de la parte principal del foro. . . :) ¡Hasta luego!
jajajajaja *rofl
o sea, pensé que podrías ser un bot que uhmm es por así decirlo que envía respuestas ya programadas automáticamente, como robots (?
De todos modos, muchas gracias por tomarte el tiempo de responder, me hace sentir mejor saber que alguien puede "escucharme" (o leerme en este caso). El simple hecho de que estés tratando de encontrar o decirme algo que pueda ayudarme me hace sentir mucho mejor. gracias <33
 

Atreides

drink plenty of water
Forum Pro
SF Supporter
#9
Welcome to SF. I'm glad you found us. Feel free to vent as much as you need. That's what we're here for. If you need to, please reach out to an adult like @MisterBGone suggested. If you're in crisis and live in the US, you can always contact Suicide Hotline by dialing 988. You can also text Crisis Text Line by texting Home to 741741. Anyways remember SF is here for you.
 
#11
Hola Flan 🍮- No sé cómo te sientes, pero me pregunto si hay algún perfeccionismo que te afecte. Pensé que tal vez parte de lo que no te está ayudando. Tienes que trabajar en ello para sentirte mejor. Ya lo has intuido y eso demuestra que ya tienes cierta conciencia de ti mismo.

Lo que quiero decir es que no te preocupes por hacer tu parte, como si tu estado de ánimo fuera una prueba con exactamente una respuesta correcta. Incluso si supieras qué es, es posible que no funcione para ti. Intenta hacerlo un poco mejor que ayer. Este es un proceso de prueba y error. Los cambios pequeños funcionan mejor, porque es muy difícil apegarse a cambios grandes. Por eso está bien experimentar y aprender de los errores. Realmente así es como los humanos aprenden algo. Tal vez esté completamente equivocado: no me veo como un gran juez de carácter. Sólo pensé que tal vez resulta realmente intimidante arreglar todo rápidamente. Los pequeños pasos llevarán tiempo, pero en general durarán más. ¡Espero que esto ayude!
Muchas gracias por tu consejo. Sé muy bien las cosas que tengo que hacer/mejorar en mí (no específicamente pero es algo, o tal vez solo estoy creyendo que sé lo que tengo que hacer mhm) para mí es complicado porque continuamente me vienen malos recuerdos y me hace sentir que Nada de lo que hago para intentar mejorar mi calidad de vida realmente funciona :(. Pero supongo que estaré bien, eso espero y aunque llevo mucho tiempo diciéndome que lo conseguiré salir de esta etapa, eso es solo cuestión de “tiempo” pero ¿es cierto? porque me siento así desde los 10 años y ahora tengo 14 (siento que he estado perdiendo el tiempo, mi adolescencia se derrama sobre mis manos y solo me quedo mirando jajaja) Siento que de alguna manera nadie puede salir completamente de este tipo de sentimientos, ¿verdad? De todos modos, gracias por tomarse el tiempo de responder 💗
 

MisterBGone

~\_✅`,')
SF Supporter
#16
jajajajaja *rofl
o sea, pensé que podrías ser un bot que uhmm es por así decirlo que envía respuestas ya programadas automáticamente, como robots (?
De todos modos, muchas gracias por tomarte el tiempo de responder, me hace sentir mejor saber que alguien puede "escucharme" (o leerme en este caso). El simple hecho de que estés tratando de encontrar o decirme algo que pueda ayudarme me hace sentir mucho mejor. gracias <33
Okay! :) It'll take me a, "Good-Minute" to translate all (of) that~!* ;):D First off/or order - of business. . . is in 'deciphering,' which cryptic language it is! Just kidding... :D Uff Dah~ :^) // that's not going to be easy, for some-body, who doesn't speak one single language with any degree of fluency! ;D
Fortunately, in a previous lifetime: I specialized in figuring out ancient hieroglyphics!! : ) ~just joking. (=
 
#17
Okay! :) It'll take me a, "Good-Minute" to translate all (of) that~!* ;):D First off/or order - of business. . . is in 'deciphering,' which cryptic language it is! Just kidding... :D Uff Dah~ :^) // that's not going to be easy, for some-body, who doesn't speak one single language with any degree of fluency! ;D
Fortunately, in a previous lifetime: I specialized in figuring out ancient hieroglyphics!! : ) ~just joking. (=
I JUST SAW THIS, LOL, my cell phone accidentally put it on "automatic translation" and it apparently went into another language (I'm learning English even though I'm not that good...). I hope you were able to translate it (*ˊᗜˋ*)
 

MisterBGone

~\_✅`,')
SF Supporter
#18
I JUST SAW THIS, LOL, my cell phone accidentally put it on "automatic translation" and it apparently went into another language (I'm learning English even though I'm not that good...). I hope you were able to translate it (*ˊᗜˋ*)
Well, if you're just learning English, that's pretty good! As I wouldn't have even known it were so, that you were only just studying up on it now... So good work, for you then. And oh, how I can only imagine the difficulty with which you must struggle with my words, and language, and what it is I try to say! ;) Seriously, if you ever have any questions about anything I write, no matter what it is--please don't hesitate to ask. Thanks, and great job, as I said. You are very proficient in it already @silly kid :B : )
 

LumberJack

Huggy Bear 🐻
#20
Hi again Flan, I’m sorry I missed your reply. I was going to run it through a translator but I got busy and forgot. Hablo Español roto, lo siento. Pero, es mas facile leer como hablar.

I sort of get the gist, but there are many words I would have to look up.

I have heard a joke:
Q: what do you call someone who speaks two languages?
A: bilingual

Q: What do you call somebody who speaks 3 languages?
A: trilingual

Q: what do you call someone who only speaks one language?
A: an American! (Which I get it, America is a much larger place than one country, but the joke doesn’t work so well without a short term for citizens of the USA)

My point is that I feel less than great about only speaking English and then a smattering of other languages. I’m relatively okay with Italian and German. I do know that English is a difficult language to learn compared to other Romance languages. So I feel terrible that everyone has to learn English as “the language of business.”

hope things are going better for you.
 

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