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is transitioning always/only about gender?

dandelions

dandelions

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my successes so far...
• i announced my gender transitioning
• i got an eyebrow pierced
• i have been non-self harm for just about 2 years now!

but my big question is the title of this post. my eyebrow is not about being trans in the gender sense. or is it? does anyone here do things that might be aligned with gender transtioning but yet the thing done is not necessarily gender transitonin yet still supportive of it.

still in my real life, there are so many (actually so many is only a few) around me who seem to demand that i be the "man" i've always supposedly presented as and it just seems to kill all my efforts because no matter what i do, i'll forever be that "blank" i was born to be even though i hate it.

but keep in mind i'm not all self hate, i have taken so many positive steps (see above) but i need to do more and i'm stuck believing that what i need to do is impossible so i wonder if there is anything else even non gender that can help me to feel good about myself since i know i am not and will never be what those around me think i am, want me to be and even require of me.

i think i do have a strategy for success even though my life seems to naturally block it. i need to find more that is not aligned with self harm because everyone (the professionals i see so often who are in place to assist in medical and psychological stuff) is so quick to accuse me of being a negative thinker and not capeable of being positive on my own and they think that no matter what - i'm suicidal and self harming - even if i know i'm not.

i think i need to establish an arsenal of things that support me even if i can never complete the gender transitioning process.

so i wonder, does anyone encounter anything like this and have they found things that they can do that i might try too???
 
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1964dodge

1964dodge

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i can't mention about transitions or non gender issue. i can of course disagree with your health care professionals. i remember what you used to be like and you suffered greatly. in my opinion you fought very hard to get better. all of your hard work is paying off and i'm very proud of you. i never thought you would even be close to where you are today. please keep up the good work and be proud of your accomplishment

mike....*hug*shake*bravo*stars
 
Lady Wolfshead

Lady Wolfshead

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I think transitioning can mean many things, and the piercing can be part of transitioning if you want it to be. Body mods can be so liberating. I think the whole idea of "transitioning" to something you want to be is liberating.

I've always had terrible skin, and soon I will be going for treatments to improve it. They are expensive but worth it to me as I hate wearing foundation makeup. Obviously not the same as gender transition yet it will take a lot of time and effort to remove pre-cancerous lesions and blemishes.
 
dandelions

dandelions

me
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1964dodge said:
i can't mention about transitions or non gender issue. i can of course disagree with your health care professionals. i remember what you used to be like and you suffered greatly. in my opinion you fought very hard to get better. all of your hard work is paying off and i'm very proud of you. i never thought you would even be close to where you are today. please keep up the good work and be proud of your accomplishment

mike....*hug*shake*bravo*stars
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dandelions

dandelions

me
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Lady Wolfshead said:
I think transitioning can mean many things, and the piercing can be part of transitioning if you want it to be. Body mods can be so liberating. I think the whole idea of "transitioning" to something you want to be is liberating.

I've always had terrible skin, and soon I will be going for treatments to improve it. They are expensive but worth it to me as I hate wearing foundation makeup. Obviously not the same as gender transition yet it will take a lot of time and effort to remove pre-cancerous lesions and blemishes.
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