My dog or my livelihood?

I seem to have two options right now, either leave my abusive relationship with a straight up, full-blown psychopath and leave my dog in his care (which he's not going to fucking bother himself with), or stay and continue enduring the abuse

Sorry that this is happening.


Can you explain why these are the only two options?

You can always drop the dog off at a shelter. I am not sure if you have those where you live. No questions ask just surrender the pup. If your current partner really wants to take care of the pup i am sure he will find out how to get the pup back. You don’t even have to say that you did it. Maybe the pup went missing. If you believe harm will come to the pup i would surrender him.

Then you can get out as well as the pup

Well, apparently he said that he would want me to leave the dog there if I left, so I guess that's what I'm going to have to do. He claims he'd take care of him, which I highly doubt, but if I try to do anything else it's just going to piss him off more and that's not something I want to deal with.

Do you have Facebook? There are usually rehoming groups by city and/or states. Lots of folks cant afford to buy a dog but can care for one. Its worth a try.
You need to be safe. 🦩🦩

In that case I know it’s hard but you need to come first. You need to help yourself first
Repeat that over and over and over.
Puppers has a roof over his/her head , food that is the best anyone can ask for.

Now you need to be somewhere safe.
Yes you may not know what the future holds for you or pup but at this moment let’s help ourselves before we can even help anyone anything else.

🤗🤗 yes moving is the best option in my opinion

I know how much you love that dog T but you've got to come first here. If you can't take him with you then leaving him with your husband or at a shelter is the best thing. If you're worried that your husband won't look after him properly (he's probably got more important things to spend his money on than dog food right?) maybe you can drop food round so you'll know he's always got his dinner.

You can't go on living like this, you know you deserve so much better.

Is it the sort of thing where being around your husband is dangerous? If he's not dangerous, maybe you could leave the dog with him for a while, just long enough to see how he's being treated, and then check back in.

If the dog is ok, then you could keep checking on him periodically. If the dog is not ok, you could try to have a "plan b" in place.

I seem to have two options right now, either leave my abusive relationship with a straight up, full-blown psychopath and leave my dog in his care (which he's not going to fucking bother himself with), or stay and continue enduring the abuse.

So what would you all do?
Serious question, here, because I honestly don't fucking know anymore. I don't trust my own judgement because, so far, it's gotten me nothing but pain.

Granted, this dog, has some serious behavioral issues at times and gets aggressive and snaps at me and tries to bite me, but also, I don't think he knows any better and doesn't actually want/mean to hurt me. But regardless, I still don't know if I have the heart to leave him behind with this asshole if I were to go.

I would leave and then call the pound to retrieve the dog. Leave the dog to the professionals.

Ok, so going back doesn't sound like an option.

I wonder if you could arrange for someone else to check on the dog's welfare?